Lady Situation(pls dont tramble)

reverend_kyle · Post by **reverend_kyle** » Wed Mar 14, 2007 2:11 am

Ok so theres this girl right. We've been sort of together/friends w/benefits grey area thingy for about a month now and I like her quite a bit. I sort of want to take it to the next level, but I don't want to bring it up. I sort of want her to bring it up, so that I don't have to risk ruining what we already have which is still great in my opinion.

I'm also a math whiz, and I really like teaching people stuff... this comes in later in the story. So anyways we are talking and she is really bad at math. I see this as an opportunity to show that I can be a sort of boyfriend overlooker theory and say I'm a whiz at math let me help you when we hang out this weekend.

Umm so here's my dilemma, how do I mix cutesy ways of getting some in with my helping her with math. I figure if it was addition I could be like so if I gave you one kiss then I gave you 2 more how many kisses will I have given you, but unfortunately that isn't high school curriculum.

Any ideas?

Wisse · Post by **Wisse** » Wed Mar 14, 2007 2:13 am

nope, gl with it!

vtmarik · Post by **vtmarik** » Wed Mar 14, 2007 2:18 am

Dude, don't try to be cute and convincing and such, just come out and say it.

If she's into it, she'll be waiting for you to make the move. Just have faith and you'll receive a sign.

reverend_kyle · Post by **reverend_kyle** » Wed Mar 14, 2007 2:36 am

vtmarik wrote:Just have faith and you'll receive a sign.

Jay's been saying that for years, I'm not believin it.

Telvannia · Post by **Telvannia** » Wed Mar 14, 2007 2:59 am

try adding some humourous hints into your teaching

bit of a bad example but best i could think of this came to me after reading your idea:

Q: what do you get if you take a kiss to the power of 5
A: a snog

as i said not a good example but im sure you could think of something better

reverend_kyle · Post by **reverend_kyle** » Wed Mar 14, 2007 3:02 am

Telvannia wrote:try adding some humourous hints into your teaching

bit of a bad example but best i could think of this came to me after reading your idea:

Q: what do you get if you take a kiss to the power of 5
A: a snog

as i said not a good example but im sure you could think of something better

I was asking for some humourous hints actually.

What the hell is a snog?

Telvannia · Post by **Telvannia** » Wed Mar 14, 2007 3:05 am

not a clue what you would call it
here are other names i know it by:

french kiss
getting off

Stopper · Post by **Stopper** » Wed Mar 14, 2007 3:20 am

A snog:

Kayla · Post by **Kayla** » Wed Mar 14, 2007 3:23 am

that is the most disgusting thing ive ever seen

reverend_kyle · Post by **reverend_kyle** » Wed Mar 14, 2007 3:23 am

Kayla wrote:that is the most disgusting thing ive ever seen

you obviously haven't seen the whole image.

Master Bush · Post by **Master Bush** » Wed Mar 14, 2007 3:24 am

Wisse wrote:nope, gl with it!

He said dont tramble down. Now stop trambling.

reverend_kyle · Post by **reverend_kyle** » Wed Mar 14, 2007 3:25 am

pls don't tramble wisse

Skittles! · Post by **Skittles!** » Wed Mar 14, 2007 3:27 am

Telvannia wrote:not a clue what you would call it
here are other names i know it by:

french kiss
getting off

We also call it a Hook Up.
Snog.. I'll remember that.

Also Kyle, maybe you can just play it cool, and then go, are you getting this? You wana stop for a while to soak it in?

Or something stupid like that.

Then you can ask what she wants to do after you just stopped for a while and then play it out from there.

MeDeFe · Post by **MeDeFe** » Wed Mar 14, 2007 3:30 am

You either come out and say it or give her other more subtle signs, but I think using math to do that is a bad idea. Unless you're a professional comedian or performer or something and know exactly how to do it so you don't sounds like a geek.

Kayla · Post by **Kayla** » Wed Mar 14, 2007 3:51 am

reverend_kyle wrote:
Kayla wrote:that is the most disgusting thing ive ever seen

you obviously haven't seen the whole image.

i have, and never want to see it again

Ehriggn · Post by **Ehriggn** » Wed Mar 14, 2007 3:55 am

stopper, you've got sick sick sick sick (x infinity) perversion.lol!!
why do you have that image? EWWW! I'm going to have nightmares!

at first I quoted you, but edited it because I don't want that image near my name!

Kayla · Post by **Kayla** » Wed Mar 14, 2007 4:02 am

ok rev, make a new rule, no man shall give his opinion. okay?

Women are the biggest mystery of the universe, me being one, i think i know. So guys, no offense, but shut your mouth j/k

anyway

If she hasn't suggested any "romantic interest" in you yet... shes

1. too shy
2. doesnt like you

so either way "hinting" is going to do no good. because she'll be too shy to make the first "real move" or if she doesnt like you, your hints wont do anything but make her uncomfortable and not know what to do..

I'm going to guess shes shy, being your a very likeable guy... So, I think you should tell her.. not straight out like "i like you and want to be with you" and blah blah blah, because thats going to shock the piss out of her and make her uncomfortable...

what you do is take it slow...
get what needs done first, just in case you two end up f***ing and forget about the homework (j/k), anyway.. help her with her math, then say something like your thirsty or hungry so you want to take a break. That seems normal right? nothing suspicious. Ask if she wants to do something else for a while (and no i dont mean that sexually), like watch a movie, go get something to eat, etc.... (if you watch a movie, dont go to the movies, thats the worst place to 'talk'. so do it at home.

A movie is the perfect scenario, i dont know how many times my ex f*** buddy and I pretended we wanted to watch a movie knowing we really just wanted to get straight to it (excuse how crude this is) lol...

Anyway, sometime during the movie, just do gradual things. First thing you should do is be the last to sit on the couch. And when you sit down, sit to where your thighs are touching... THIS IS THE BEST WAY TRUST ME...... because if she scoots over a lil bit, that means shes uncomfortable, if she stays where she is, she totally digs you...
I'm not saying if she scoots she doesnt like you, but thats just an easy way to let her know that you meant to sit that close to her... so maybe you arent going to "let it out" that night, but she'll know your intentions, and hopefully will start becoming more open. Anyway, if she doesnt "scoot", after a few minutes just rest your hand on her leg. harmless right? if she gives you an odd look DO NOT move your hand. This is the best silent way to let someone know your interested. Do not move your hand unless she tells you too, or starts to scoot over.. anyway, after that your on your own. Im done typing, night night

Kayla · Post by **Kayla** » Wed Mar 14, 2007 4:04 am

just keep doing harmless normal things, nothing creepy that would make her uncomfy

Skittles! · Post by **Skittles!** » Wed Mar 14, 2007 4:44 am

Kayla, I'm sure I was going along those lines, don't you think?

MeDeFe · Post by **MeDeFe** » Wed Mar 14, 2007 7:19 am

Would a porn movie be a good idea? Or is that a too obvious hint?

Minkish · Post by **Minkish** » Wed Mar 14, 2007 8:25 am

What the hell would you consider friends with benefits if you haven't kissed yet?

Secondly, if she's coming over your house for the sole purpose of hanging out with you alone, then just go in for the kill already. If you wait too long, you will be put in the friend-zone, if you havent already.

If she's being a little flirtatious, if she's brushing up against you a lot, or if she's giving you looks, then just go in for the kiss. If she wants it, she'll let you, if not then she won't. Reading her body language is something that you can only do for yourself, so learn how to do it, and go give it a shot

reverend_kyle · Post by **reverend_kyle** » Wed Mar 14, 2007 8:56 am

Kayla wrote:ok rev, make a new rule, no man shall give his opinion. okay?

Women are the biggest mystery of the universe, me being one, i think i know. So guys, no offense, but shut your mouth j/k

anyway

If she hasn't suggested any "romantic interest" in you yet... shes

1. too shy
2. doesnt like you

so either way "hinting" is going to do no good. because she'll be too shy to make the first "real move" or if she doesnt like you, your hints wont do anything but make her uncomfortable and not know what to do..

I'm going to guess shes shy, being your a very likeable guy... So, I think you should tell her.. not straight out like "i like you and want to be with you" and blah blah blah, because thats going to shock the piss out of her and make her uncomfortable...

what you do is take it slow...
get what needs done first, just in case you two end up f***ing and forget about the homework (j/k), anyway.. help her with her math, then say something like your thirsty or hungry so you want to take a break. That seems normal right? nothing suspicious. Ask if she wants to do something else for a while (and no i dont mean that sexually), like watch a movie, go get something to eat, etc.... (if you watch a movie, dont go to the movies, thats the worst place to 'talk'. so do it at home.

A movie is the perfect scenario, i dont know how many times my ex f*** buddy and I pretended we wanted to watch a movie knowing we really just wanted to get straight to it (excuse how crude this is) lol...

Anyway, sometime during the movie, just do gradual things. First thing you should do is be the last to sit on the couch. And when you sit down, sit to where your thighs are touching... THIS IS THE BEST WAY TRUST ME...... because if she scoots over a lil bit, that means shes uncomfortable, if she stays where she is, she totally digs you...
I'm not saying if she scoots she doesnt like you, but thats just an easy way to let her know that you meant to sit that close to her... so maybe you arent going to "let it out" that night, but she'll know your intentions, and hopefully will start becoming more open. Anyway, if she doesnt "scoot", after a few minutes just rest your hand on her leg. harmless right? if she gives you an odd look DO NOT move your hand. This is the best silent way to let someone know your interested. Do not move your hand unless she tells you too, or starts to scoot over.. anyway, after that your on your own. Im done typing, night night

She's showed alot of interest, so that's not the problem. Its gettting it that extra step to where its an actual relationship.

reverend_kyle · Post by **reverend_kyle** » Wed Mar 14, 2007 8:56 am

Minkish wrote:What the hell would you consider friends with benefits if you haven't kissed yet?

Secondly, if she's coming over your house for the sole purpose of hanging out with you alone, then just go in for the kill already. If you wait too long, you will be put in the friend-zone, if you havent already.

If she's being a little flirtatious, if she's brushing up against you a lot, or if she's giving you looks, then just go in for the kiss. If she wants it, she'll let you, if not then she won't. Reading her body language is something that you can only do for yourself, so learn how to do it, and go give it a shot

And we have kissed quite a bit, I don't know where people got the idea we hadn't.

Minkish · Post by **Minkish** » Wed Mar 14, 2007 9:14 am

Well then wha the hell are you waiting for. If you've already done that, just tell her "Listen, I've thought about it a lot, and I think you should be my girlfriend"

Aries · Post by **Aries** » Wed Mar 14, 2007 9:15 am

Look, if you want advice, I'm not the guy to give you any. Although kayla's advice seemed pretty good.