Conquer Club

OK here's one...
https://www.upi.com/Odd_News/2019/02/08/Students-create-banana-piano-for-Kazakhstan-festival/2281549655455/

Well, it looks like the mother-in-law is on her last legs - she's got to the stage where the only medication they're giving her is to try to keep her comfortable. Mrs thecurl is flying there now from Ghana, hoping to get there in time to see her off.

I hope your wife gets home in time. Being a caregiver is hard. You have done all you can.

I think at some level she just gave up - moving into a care home may have been the last straw. She couldn't be at home without professional carers any more, but I think leaving the house was more than she could take, too.

I probably can't fully imagine being told, "You're going to live here now." It must be difficult.

Palliative care can be really good for people. It's not just about the patient, but also about the family. It's important to know that she's getting round the clock care, but also that she's not going to pass under your watch. Sounds harsh, I know, but people beat themselves up when a loved one passes because they think that they missed something, or could have been there and somehow helped.

All the best to you and yours,
Sym

Mrs thecurl is with her now, the old dear is now only receiving morphine, it's a matter of hours.
I feel guilty for thinking that (a) this will stop a huge drain on our finances, and (b) the Mrs will be home more often. But those things are both true.
It also means that the last reason for me to return to the UK several times a year will be gone. I'm not sure how I feel about that.

You're American now Jones.

Applying for citizenship when i can be arsed to complete the silly form.

Did you just show up and go from there or did you apply for visas. I should probably head down there. I'd rather live in a place I can grow peaches and peppers once me and Alberta Health both go broke.

I have a green card at the moment.

So, you found a green card and then went to New Jersey.

jonesthecurl wrote:Mrs thecurl is with her now, the old dear is now only receiving morphine, it's a matter of hours.
I feel guilty for thinking that (a) this will stop a huge drain on our finances, and (b) the Mrs will be home more often. But those things are both true.
It also means that the last reason for me to return to the UK several times a year will be gone. I'm not sure how I feel about that.

So the old dear is finally gone - she became completely unaware of her surroundings sometime yesterday, and slipped away this morning. Mrs tc is making various arrangements right now, then has to return to Ghana to do the stuff she was supposed to be doing before this . The funeral will be in about 10 or 12 days time, so I'll be heading over to the Uk once again for (literally) morbid reasons.

We had arranged for the next generation to go visit in early May, it's sad that she didn't hang on until that.