Gay Adoption

[Snorri1234]

It takes a village.

Yeh this is an important point. Although I can only comment from study at undergrad level (and that was fairly minor) social historians trace the nuclear 'mother, father, children' family group back only somewhere between 200-300 years. Previous to that (i.e. for millennia) kinship groups were the norm. The whole 'you need a mother and father' thing was wide of the mark. Everyone in the community or group had a contribution to upbringing.

Yeah, group-upbringing does help. Not only a loveable "nukulr" family, but also at least a good extended family+nearby friends.

[carmacarl]

yes i believe gay couples who manage to get through the rigorous ordeal of adoption have already proved their worth as potential parents.
Although that said a kid with gay parents is likely to have a tougher time with bullying etc
Is that fair to the child?
Probably preferable to an institution.
Also is it likely the child would feel pressure to become gay themselves, not that I think gay parents would intentionally pressure the child but the situation of itself would.
I think the only real answer is to try it maybe we'll end up with much more tolerant generation.

[Typherin]

Sometimes homophobia annoys me.

There is Zero reason why a child raised in a same sex parent home will suffer any detrimental consiquences. As long as they have two loving parents thats all any child needs.

Is not as if someone being raised by a homosexual is going to turn into a homosexual themselves due to this. Your sexual preferances are not something you develop due to outside influences, your born with them.

I suppose the one issue you could look at is that a lad may not have a 'father figure' to look upto. But looking at the thousands of disrespectful and benefit claiming chav shits we have in England thats nothing short of the norm anyway !

So meh, If two men/women want to adopt a child why shouldn't they provided they can give a loving home.

[comic boy]

no, This is coming from a kid that was adopted in RL. If my parents were gay I probly would be not be able to live in the house with them.

Perhaps if your parents had been gay your views would be different

[dacey]

I am lesbian as a few of you know with a nearly 15 year old daughter
that is very much heterosexual in her out look on life ,she has boy friends and lots of mates that stay over with us and she stays with there parents for stay overs .

And the only difference i can see in my daughter and her mates is that she and her mates are less likely to stereo type people just for there sexual
orientations or beliefs .

And just a point to remember in this most homosexuals start of in a heterosexual house hold of two parents , and it does not make us heterosexual.

I agree with you. But only if by mate you meant friend, not lover. Mainly because if you meant lover then you would be promoting a 15 year old sleeping around, and in that case I would question your parenting skills...
But anyway, you're happy, she's happy, so there should be nothing wrong with it, in my opinion.

[radiojake]

I am lesbian as a few of you know with a nearly 15 year old daughter
that is very much heterosexual in her out look on life ,she has boy friends and lots of mates that stay over with us and she stays with there parents for stay overs .

And the only difference i can see in my daughter and her mates is that she and her mates are less likely to stereo type people just for there sexual
orientations or beliefs .

And just a point to remember in this most homosexuals start of in a heterosexual house hold of two parents , and it does not make us heterosexual.

I agree with you. But only if by mate you meant friend, not lover. Mainly because if you meant lover then you would be promoting a 15 year old sleeping around, and in that case I would question your parenting skills...
But anyway, you're happy, she's happy, so there should be nothing wrong with it, in my opinion.

nearly 15

[MeDeFe]

I think the only persons who would use 'mate' in a sense that somehow involvs sex are biologists.

[jm_jazzman]

I think the only persons who would use 'mate' in a sense that somehow involvs sex are biologists.

It depends on where you're from, I suppose. It's not used commonly to mean "friend" where I'm from (Canada). Took me some time in the UK to get used to it like that.

[MeDeFe]

I think the only persons who would use 'mate' in a sense that somehow involvs sex are biologists.

It depends on where you're from, I suppose. It's not used commonly to mean "friend" where I'm from (Canada). Took me some time in the UK to get used to it like that.

From this I conclude that there are many Canadian biologists.

[satanspaladin]

just to clear up any misunderstanding my wife rambos poodle used the term mates to refer to friends of both sexes and not lovers .
are daughter is interested in boy as boy friends only .

A point i have been seeing is the role models in a child's rearing having to
be of both sex 's .

I would say its only important for the child to have both sexes in the home if the child has no contact with the other gender in his /her social environment.

I would agree a totally female or male environment with the child never having contact with the other gender would be bad for any child s social
development .
And just personal point i don't care if you are heterosexual or homosexual
its being the best parent you can that counts ,and unfortunately there are bad one in both sexual orientations.