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Anger Management 6 Critical Steps to a Calmer Life by Peter Favaro, PHD


Yeah, I recognize it so I got a book.

2 types

Frustration driven anger

Predatory anger


I would fall into the former.



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I took a course of it.

It helps, but it's something you need to practice on an ongoing basis until it gets ingrained as learned behavior.

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jay_a2j wrote:Anger Management 6 Critical Steps to a Calmer Life by Peter Favaro, PHD


Yeah, I recognize it so I got a book.

2 types

Frustration driven anger

Predatory anger


I would fall into the former.



remember..... L.A.S.T.


So what's "Predatory" anger? It's got a kind of ring to it . . .


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When I was released from NY after my unlawful unjustifiable incarceration I felt good. Real good. You pay your dues in life and deally it's a learning experience and you grow from it but then the HEAT kept coming the f*ck down! Despite the enormouty of my contributions to the grand scheme of things..
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Johnny Rockets wrote:you need to practice on an ongoing basis until it gets ingrained as learned behavior.



Yeah, that's what the book says.



b.k. barunt wrote:So what's "Predatory" anger? It's got a kind of ring to it . . .



It's anger and aggression people use to create feelings of satisfaction. "These are the most dangerous of all angry people." They use anger as a technique "used to compete,persuade, manipulate, control and intimidate others."
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Step 1: Be aware of what you're doing. Keep in mind the times when you are becoming angry

Step 2: Here's are some ways to cool yourself down while you are or have reached a certain point of anger: breathing techniques, yadayadayadayada.

Step 3: If your CC name is jay_a2j, avoid all conversations regarding these topics: politics, global warming, religion.

Step 4: Eventually, you'll learn to take things in stride, not being so serious all the time and realize how funny things can be.


Good luck, jay. It's always a good thing to see someone take the steps to improve themselves. Just like an AA meeting: congratulations for admitting to your anger management problem, and for beginning the journey to successfully control it.
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jay_a2j wrote:
b.k. barunt wrote:So what's "Predatory" anger? It's got a kind of ring to it . . .



It's anger and aggression people use to create feelings of satisfaction. "These are the most dangerous of all angry people." They use anger as a technique "used to compete,persuade, manipulate, control and intimidate others."


Seems to me that Frustrated Anger would inevitably evolve into Predatory Anger - unless of course one enjoys remaining frustrated.


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i had to attend anger a management course for 20 weeks once. i used to do a days graft, then get home eat shower and drive to a two hour course with hippies talking bollocks. it made me furious!
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billy07 wrote:i had to attend anger a management course for 20 weeks once. i used to do a days graft, then get home eat shower and drive to a two hour course with hippies talking bollocks. it made me furious!


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Thanks BBS.


b.k. barunt wrote:Seems to me that Frustrated Anger would inevitably evolve into Predatory Anger - unless of course one enjoys remaining frustrated.


Honibaz



I get angry and yell but I can yell all day long without the slightest inkling to get physical. I also use sarcasm when I'm angry and this, as I've learned, escalates the situation. The book shed some light on how to de-escalate a situation that can get out of control.


Now to read, Behold A Pale Horse. ;)
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Now behold, the leading authority in the world in psychology, only sane person in the world with any REAL power, a person who spent the last 3 years helping to run the fucking planet, a person that needs that check TODAY. Has had it up to his eyeballs with the nonsense insanity and bullshit that just isn't stopping and it's just getting worse. A person who's already sustained an enormous amount of damage. It's time to get on with things. I've done all that I could do said all that I could say under these circumstances. We are just about done here. Trust my judgement that's all I got left. Alot of work that needs be done and I straight up CAN'T do it now no matter what, I'm tooo wounded.
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Uncle Waldo wrote:Now behold, the leading authority in the world in psychology, only sane person in the world with any REAL power, a person who spent the last 3 years helping to run the fucking planet, a person that needs that check TODAY. Has had it up to his eyeballs with the nonsense insanity and bullshit that just isn't stopping and it's just getting worse. A person who's already sustained an enormous amount of damage. It's time to get on with things. I've done all that I could do said all that I could say under these circumstances. We are just about done here. Trust my judgement that's all I got left. Alot of work that needs be done and I straight up CAN'T do it now no matter what, I'm tooo wounded.


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billy07 wrote:i had to attend anger a management course for 20 weeks once. i used to do a days graft, then get home eat shower and drive to a two hour course with hippies talking bollocks. it made me furious!


I'm sure she totally deserved it though, amirite.
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I hope he didn't leave any permanent marks.
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jay_a2j wrote:Thanks BBS.


b.k. barunt wrote:Seems to me that Frustrated Anger would inevitably evolve into Predatory Anger - unless of course one enjoys remaining frustrated.


Honibaz



I get angry and yell but I can yell all day long without the slightest inkling to get physical. I also use sarcasm when I'm angry and this, as I've learned, escalates the situation. The book shed some light on how to de-escalate a situation that can get out of control.


Now to read, Behold A Pale Horse. ;)


I like to escalate situations.

I never met a person who was angry enough to yell that wouldn't get physical if you laughed at their yelling. If i reach the yelling point i've also reached the point where i'm quite ready for violence. My wife's the only one who can get me to that point and i'll usually hit some inanimate object to defuse. I've never hit her in 37 years of marriage and only came close a couple of times when she hit me, so i guess i've got it under control.


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"having spent some time in a few steakhouses growing up......
...and then what's left over that's still good.."

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Timminz wrote:
billy07 wrote:i had to attend anger a management course for 20 weeks once. i used to do a days graft, then get home eat shower and drive to a two hour course with hippies talking bollocks. it made me furious!


I'm sure she totally deserved it though, amirite.



how could anyone that goes online and brags about smoking and selling weed in front of children be wrong about anything? RESPECT BIGG DOGG
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billy07 wrote:
Timminz wrote:
billy07 wrote:i had to attend anger a management course for 20 weeks once. i used to do a days graft, then get home eat shower and drive to a two hour course with hippies talking bollocks. it made me furious!

I'm sure she totally deserved it though, amirite.

how could anyone that goes online and brags about smoking and selling weed in front of children be wrong about anything? RESPECT BIGG DOGG


Uh oh guys. Billy's gone and taken the internets seriously again.
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Timminz wrote:
billy07 wrote:
Timminz wrote:
billy07 wrote:i had to attend anger a management course for 20 weeks once. i used to do a days graft, then get home eat shower and drive to a two hour course with hippies talking bollocks. it made me furious!

I'm sure she totally deserved it though, amirite.

how could anyone that goes online and brags about smoking and selling weed in front of children be wrong about anything? RESPECT BIGG DOGG


Uh oh guys. Billy's gone and taken the internets seriously again.


backtrack much?
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billy07 wrote:
Timminz wrote:
billy07 wrote:
Timminz wrote:
billy07 wrote:i had to attend anger a management course for 20 weeks once. i used to do a days graft, then get home eat shower and drive to a two hour course with hippies talking bollocks. it made me furious!

I'm sure she totally deserved it though, amirite.

how could anyone that goes online and brags about smoking and selling weed in front of children be wrong about anything? RESPECT BIGG DOGG

Uh oh guys. Billy's gone and taken the internets seriously again.

backtrack much?


Never! I prefer to lie outright, and then laugh at people for believing me.

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the boy who cried wolf springs to mind here.
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billy07 wrote:
Timminz wrote:
billy07 wrote:i had to attend anger a management course for 20 weeks once. i used to do a days graft, then get home eat shower and drive to a two hour course with hippies talking bollocks. it made me furious!


I'm sure she totally deserved it though, amirite.



how could anyone that goes online and brags about smoking and selling weed in front of children be wrong about anything? RESPECT BIGG DOGG


Howabout smoking cigarettes and/or drinking alcohol in front of kids? Both have been proven to be more harmful than weed. Did you just watch "Reefer Madness"?


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Perhaps the pot will make you less aggressive and thus less violent. Or maybe that's a bad thing.
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I want to punch you all in the faces.
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b.k. barunt wrote:
billy07 wrote:
Timminz wrote:
billy07 wrote:i had to attend anger a management course for 20 weeks once. i used to do a days graft, then get home eat shower and drive to a two hour course with hippies talking bollocks. it made me furious!


I'm sure she totally deserved it though, amirite.



how could anyone that goes online and brags about smoking and selling weed in front of children be wrong about anything? RESPECT BIGG DOGG


Howabout smoking cigarettes and/or drinking alcohol in front of kids? Both have been proven to be more harmful than weed. Did you just watch "Reefer Madness"?


Honibaz


don't get me wrong, i would be all for legalising weed in britain. i don't smoke it myself but worked in holland for four years and think their system works.

i'm talking about somebody that comes online and bigs it up on a site where you'd expect kids to be. whether it's true what he says or not is irrelevant.
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