I think it would help if you stopped taking everything freud said as gospel, and instead view him as the rest of society does. I.e. a guy who formed the foundation of psychoanalism but was wrong on most accounts.
"Some motherfuckers are always trying to ice skate uphill."
Duane: You know what they say about love and war. Tim: Yes, one involves a lot of physical and psychological pain, and the other one's war.