Hi Bertros,
First, congratulations on your upcoming (hopefully soon) wedding.
We both seem to be moderate (I think at least) which isn't to say that either of us will give an inch on our beliefs. I was wondering if we could change tack and find what we agree on. (No I'm not trying to convert you. That's not my gig.) Your choice to embrace any belief or belief system is entirely your own as far as I'm concerned. I just defend my own beliefs.
Bertros Bertros wrote: Anglican: I have to admit my presumptions in this were a bit errant, based on your research the numbers of Catholics in high risk areas is not as great as I had assumed. I guess its not so bad if the numbers are smaller?
I think we are in agreement that condom use can be effective in reducing the chance of getting the disease. The main problem that I see with them isn’t with the condom. They are actually more effective than you suggest. With “perfect use” that is all the time, every time, check for leaks, be careful not to tear it when putting it on, pinch an inch at the top, take it off while you’re still up, & turn away to make sure you don’t spill, and oh yeah store them in a cool dry place (not your wallet). They are basically the easiest contraceptive to screw up (pardon the pun) because you have to make a decision to use them when you are not exactly at your most rational and careful. Those people with the discipline to use them properly almost never transmit the disease or get pregnant. Don’t they seem come with a list of “thou shalts” to rival anything in the Bible, though? The problem isn’t with the condom, but the wearer. It's with "typical use", fumbling in the dark "How come the thing won't unroll? .... Oh...Ooops, I was trying to put it on backwards", that it becomes dangerous.
Where we might disagree is that I would place an emphasis on abstinence and monogamy first. Sexual moral codes have generally had the effect of slowing the spread of STD's. The Victorian morality in Britain was largely a response to rampant syphilis in the Eighteenth Century. The “cock of the walk’s” beauty mark was generally a syphilitic pock mark or imitation of one. In general, bestiality isn’t a good idea because you get diseases, like syphilis, from sheep and HIV from chimps. The moral codes passed down, generally through churches, are there for a good reason. They can also be helpful in containing the spread of AIDS. In reference to my earlier post, it seems that they are helpful in some areas.
Bertros Bertros wrote: I think you have me a little wrong in terms of the Church, maybe I come across a little more zealous on the forum or your mixing my comments with others, I'm not sure. I don't see the RC Church as sinister or uncaring particularly, though Catholicism does seem a bit bloodthirsty and oppressive at times. Also I am very thankful for all the amazing things people of all faiths do to help others. This the greatest part of religion, that it galvanises people to be good to others, sadly it has the opposite effect almost as much of the time.
I probably do have you wrong on this. It’s easy in debates to interpret your opponent’s position as more severe than it really is for a variety of innocuous reasons. My position is merely this. A church, any church, is a human organization created and run by fallible human beings. I don’t deny the bad in these organizations. I merely state, and statistics usually back me up, that the people in these organization are no worse than the people in any other organization.
I do, however, personally believe that people are generally good on some level. So I tend to believe that most organizations tend toward beneficence unless they are run or taken over by one of the rare truly depraved people. Therefore it's my personal belief that churches tend to of service more often than they are harmful. I won’t dispute your position on this though. Merely because having that discussion would most likely lead to a madening series of examples which neither of us can truly claim to be representative. “Hey whatta ‘bout the crusades?”. “Oh Yeah! Well whatta ‘bout Mother Theresa?” I don’t see that one going anywhere constructive.
You have a valid skepticism of Church leadership based, I think, on past abuses. I have faith in Church members to hold their leader’s to a high standard. It’s when people swallow whatever their leadership throws at them that you get the unhealthy cult mentality that is fostered in some churches, but not oany Church I’m likely to join. I look at my church leaders as people who’ve chosen to devote their lives to serving God in the Church. They are not little god’s to be served and obeyed. God warns against that in the ten commandments “Thou shalt have no gods before me.”
Bertros Bertros wrote: I do think the Vatican is out of touch spirtually, sociologically and politically with the rest of the world, even many of its own followers. The article on Namibia is great, it is wonderful to see evidence of grass roots Catholics prepared to go against the doctines passed down from on high and compromise them for what they know inside is right. As I alluded to in an earlier post the insular and secretive nature of the the Vatican along with their resistance change may be its downfall. Hopefully it won't bring an end to the good work done on its behalf.
I would interject that this was done with the blessings of the bishopric. The work in Namibia was done with the tacit approval of the Church leadership. As nobody has been hushed up, removed from their diocese, or excommunicated it seems that they had the Vatican’s approval, or at least its acquiescence.
One doesn’t truly need to be out-of-touch to disagree and choose another path. The fact that the Vatican disagrees with the rest of the world, to my Christian ears, says they just might be doing something right. I also believe that if they are doing something right, they aren’t going away any time soon.
I realize that most of this you disagree with, and I made an attempt to acknowledge your stance without challenging it. There are some things we just won’t agree on. This was more of an attempt to think out loud on the issue and give you the opportunity to say “yes” here and “no and here’s why ” there. If that makes any sense.