Guiscard wrote:And if a black house mate had used the word? Probably nothing. But that doesn't matter to me overly. As far as I see it, the use of the word in the Black community is a matter for within their community. When used by white people it us categorically a racial slur, but coming from a black person the meaning can be varied. Perhaps I'd biased, coming from a deep interest in Hip-Hop... But then again, that maybe makes me more sensitive to the issue! A hell of a lot of the music I DJ uses the word... Does that make me a hypocrite?
I
did have the feeling we'd disagree on this point.
I don't agree that terms can be acceptable within any one "community", but not in another. I don't see how that can possibly be conducive to social harmony at all, in the long term. I
can see that putting up with it on a regular basis might be a matter of realpolitik, because I also do so, though from the opposite direction from you - but that doesn't mean it should be accepted in principle.
It's easy for educated white middle-class people to understand the history behind such terms, and to treat people who use such terms differently depending on their background, but working-class people don't see it the same way, and the fact remains that there's no good reason for them to.