Why I havent been on for a while

[salvadevinemasse]

S.XKitten-
Most of you that remember me, I'm sure, remember me and kitten were close a while.. well we had a big fight and it lead to the end of our relationship.. Since last I knew she didn't get it maybe some of you can explain this whole thing to her of why I left our friendship?

Would you guys put up with this?

1) you tell someone you were in a car accident that month and instead of asking if your okay they tell you everything wrong with them and don't even seem to care you were in an accident?

2) When talking to you they say their ex tried to kill them, then while talking to your b/f explain something totally different then what they explained to you.

3) they ask you to call your b/f to get him online because they miss him..

Tells you your online hugs aren't like his..

or calls him alot on the phone and cries talking to him alot because of an ex(brandon)

4) was on/off trying to get your b/f to come up to their state not ever really saying at first that your invited so he always has to say i'll come if my g/f can come too and she says okay but never really seems to like the idea of you there from the tone of voice

5) Almost always has you jealous because they flirt constantly with your b/f

6) They basically stop talking to you unless YOU IM THEM... Yet your b/f goes online and boom they are the first window that pops up every time

7) Always makes it clear they are talking to your b/f when you are if your talking to them

8 ) tells you...better yet I saved the IM why dont you guys see yourself.. As you can see I'm trying to talk things out and she doesnt seem to understand/ care at all in the end of things...

This is the reason I havent been comming onto the site...I know i'm upset in this IM you can see that but i was still trying my butt off to try to work things out. I'm happy I'm out of all of her drama..Because thats all she was to me in the end, was drama.

in the end of things the next day to add insult to injury she told my b/f she figured that meant they couldn't be friends because in her way of thinking i was going to basically take him away from her... (Sorry Kat, I trust my b/f.. I don't trust you anymore and i never will... But I trust and love him with all my heart.) It'll be a year and a half for us and as he said once to me you don't have to understand why he's with me, he loves me and thats all that matters.
(That was the same day you talked to him after I told him about the fight.)

considering someone said she was 17 around when kat January or so in your letter your b-day is when December and now your 18? why do i think your telling me and VTMarik different story's?

Heres the IM
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Salva (6/22/2007 10:51:40 PM): is there a reason you never im me anymore? and havent replied to my last letter? you talked to VTMarik the other day and i didnt even get a hello..i feel so unliked right now by you. you must either really hate me, or really love VTMarik. bye i wont bother you anymore

Kat (6/22/2007 10:51:51 PM): ooh

Kat (6/22/2007 10:51:52 PM): i'm sorry

Kat (6/22/2007 10:52:02 PM): i've just been really busy

Kat (6/22/2007 10:52:19 PM): and when i called VTMarik, it was right after an incident with brandon...

Salva (6/22/2007 10:52:36 PM): yeah which you never call me about always him

Kat (6/22/2007 10:53:13 PM): so...you are upset because i called him and not you?

Salva (6/22/2007 10:53:33 PM): no i'm upset because you never call me.

Salva (6/22/2007 10:53:45 PM): I'm always the one calling you

Kat (6/22/2007 10:54:05 PM): i've been having serious minute issues

Kat (6/22/2007 10:54:13 PM): i got my cell phone taken away last month

Kat (6/22/2007 10:54:31 PM): if i have nothing to talk about, i don't call them...

Salva (6/22/2007 10:55:05 PM): you barely ever talk to me, hard for me to believe theres nothing to say

Kat (6/22/2007 10:55:19 PM): oh, and i sent your letter out a while ago (Which might I add was a lie, I never EVER got a letter)

Salva (6/22/2007 10:55:59 PM): ok.

Kat (6/22/2007 10:56:26 PM): its been a hard month, i've hardly talked to
anyone

salva (6/22/2007 10:57:40 PM): hard month...have you gotten hit by a car while crying in your car at that moment because your mom called you to bitch you out at work? Or realized that in 3 days it'll be your ex's 2nd year of being dead?

Salva (6/22/2007 10:58:50 PM): maybe you have had a hard week of realizing that you really do need a new job? or that you wanna go back to college but cant afford it too

Kat (6/22/2007 10:59:20 PM): no, but it has been six months since Nick died, i have had my shoulder dislocated, my knee torn apart by my horse, brandon attempt to kill me, and generally a really fucked up school month

salva (6/22/2007 10:59:24 PM): My boss cut my hours in half insteasd of 40 i'm working 20 and am in debt

salva (6/22/2007 11:02:48 PM): you never seem to wanna talk to me these days part of me even wonders sometimes why I try with you.I'm always trying then when I dont try you dont either .. I really never see effort on your part to try to remain friends

Kat (6/22/2007 11:03:21 PM): well, i wasn't really aware there was a problem until you told me tonight...

Salva (6/22/2007 11:04:52 PM): i'm sure you werent..I know the world doesnt revolve around me and I'm fine with that kat. but every once in a while it would be nice to be noticed even a little

Kat (6/22/2007 11:05:39 PM): i'm sorry to have hurt your feelings

Salva (6/22/2007 11:06:00 PM): i mean hell Morph IMs me alot more then you and he only talks to me like 1 time every couple weeks

Kat (6/22/2007 11:06:10 PM): umm...he never talks to me

Kat (6/22/2007 11:06:22 PM): we got in a fight a long time ago, and don't talk anymore...

salva (6/22/2007 11:06:34 PM): last i knew you didnt like him

Kat (6/22/2007 11:07:02 PM): okay...

salva (6/22/2007 11:08:58 PM): if someone called your b/f and they were your friend too wouldnt you be hurt if they barely talked to you anymore and called him then didnt even say tell her hi for me?

Kat (6/22/2007 11:09:46 PM): no, because we didn't even get to finish the conversation, he had to leave for work in the middle of it

salva (6/22/2007 11:10:13 PM): i know he did because i was across from him when he told you that

Salva (6/22/2007 11:10:49 PM): and yeah he had to go to work infact you called him just before he had to go on air

Kat (6/22/2007 11:10:58 PM): *shrugs* point?>

Salva(6/22/2007 11:13:29 PM): you know what.. remain his friend but if you cant even understand a little then I'm not gonna bother anymore..you hurt me the other day and I dont see a need to continue getting hurt by you never seeming to wanna call me and always calling my b/f when your hurt instead of once in a while picking the phone up and calling me which would waste the same minutes

Kat (6/22/2007 11:14:02 PM): he's sympathetic...you tell me what i do wrong...

Kat (6/22/2007 11:14:11 PM): thats why i don't want to call you when i'm hurt

salva (6/22/2007 11:16:11 PM): I'm just as sympathetic most people come to me when they need a shoulder to cry on thank you.. If i wasnt I doubt VTMarik would even be dating my ass..if I always said what he did wrong and was never understanding and loving do you really think we would have made it this long?


Kat (6/22/2007 11:16:40 PM): *shrugs* no idea, the dynamics of your relationship is your business, not mine...

salva (6/22/2007 11:16:54 PM): your right..Bye.

Kat (6/22/2007 11:17:11 PM): bye...

salva (6/22/2007 11:17:47 PM): by the way that was a really bitch thing to ever say to me..so this really is bye lose my yahoo and my number

Kat (6/22/2007 11:18:00 PM): mmm hmm...

[b]

That IM and that person is exactly why I wasn't coming back till my friend DAZ had told my b/f he missed my posts... I had every female friend telling me to find a way to get my b/f to even leave her as a friend they felt that kat would try to make a move on my b/f with the way that conversation was and the things I was telling them about that bothered me which i basically explained in the conversation, and in this post.

I wont do it because I love him and trust him. I'll never make him choose between us.. I already told him that part as long as I dont have to hear about her or she doesn't call or talk to him when I'm there its okay. Online I don't care about that I just hope I'm not in the room when it happens..I realllllly Don't like her anymore... She was so sweet and nice at first, then boom nightmare from hell, or drama queen from hell.. I mean there I was simply trying to explain how i felt and instead of okay well how can we deal with this or something to that ability I get told off in a way. I dont need that or her in my life.

I missed some of you guys badly though I truly did.. I just didn't want to talk to her period and I dont know if I can ignore her on this site..

ttyl
Love Salva~

[misterman10]

Do you think anybody will read that whole thing?

I know I didn't, after I saw the word s.xkitten I went to the bathroom and puked.

[hecter]

S.XKitten-
Most of you that remember me, I'm sure, remember me and kitten were close a while.. well we had a big fight and it lead to the end of our relationship.. Since last I knew she didn't get it maybe some of you can explain this whole thing to her of why I left our friendship?

Would you guys put up with this?

1) you tell someone you were in a car accident that month and instead of asking if your okay they tell you everything wrong with them and don't even seem to care you were in an accident?

2) When talking to you they say their ex tried to kill them, then while talking to your b/f explain something totally different then what they explained to you.

3) they ask you to call your b/f to get him online because they miss him..

Tells you your online hugs aren't like his..

or calls him alot on the phone and cries talking to him alot because of an ex(brandon)

4) was on/off trying to get your b/f to come up to their state not ever really saying at first that your invited so he always has to say i'll come if my g/f can come too and she says okay but never really seems to like the idea of you there from the tone of voice

5) Almost always has you jealous because they flirt constantly with your b/f

6) They basically stop talking to you unless YOU IM THEM... Yet your b/f goes online and boom they are the first window that pops up every time

7) Always makes it clear they are talking to your b/f when you are if your talking to them

tells you...better yet I saved the IM why dont you guys see yourself.. As you can see I'm trying to talk things out and she doesnt seem to understand/ care at all in the end of things...

This is the reason I havent been comming onto the site...I know i'm upset in this IM you can see that but i was still trying my butt off to try to work things out. I'm happy I'm out of all of her drama..Because thats all she was to me in the end, was drama.

in the end of things the next day to add insult to injury she told my b/f she figured that meant they couldn't be friends because in her way of thinking i was going to basically take him away from her... (Sorry Kat, I trust my b/f.. I don't trust you anymore and i never will... But I trust and love him with all my heart.) It'll be a year and a half for us and as he said once to me you don't have to understand why he's with me, he loves me and thats all that matters.
(That was the same day you talked to him after I told him about the fight.)

considering someone said she was 17 around when kat January or so in your letter your b-day is when December and now your 18? why do i think your telling me and VTMarik different story's?

Heres the IM
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Salva (6/22/2007 10:51:40 PM): is there a reason you never im me anymore? and havent replied to my last letter? you talked to VTMarik the other day and i didnt even get a hello..i feel so unliked right now by you. you must either really hate me, or really love VTMarik. bye i wont bother you anymore

Kat (6/22/2007 10:51:51 PM): ooh

Kat (6/22/2007 10:51:52 PM): i'm sorry

Kat (6/22/2007 10:52:02 PM): i've just been really busy

Kat (6/22/2007 10:52:19 PM): and when i called VTMarik, it was right after an incident with brandon...

Salva (6/22/2007 10:52:36 PM): yeah which you never call me about always him

Kat (6/22/2007 10:53:13 PM): so...you are upset because i called him and not you?

Salva (6/22/2007 10:53:33 PM): no i'm upset because you never call me.

Salva (6/22/2007 10:53:45 PM): I'm always the one calling you

Kat (6/22/2007 10:54:05 PM): i've been having serious minute issues

Kat (6/22/2007 10:54:13 PM): i got my cell phone taken away last month

Kat (6/22/2007 10:54:31 PM): if i have nothing to talk about, i don't call them...

Salva (6/22/2007 10:55:05 PM): you barely ever talk to me, hard for me to believe theres nothing to say

Kat (6/22/2007 10:55:19 PM): oh, and i sent your letter out a while ago (Which might I add was a lie, I never EVER got a letter)

Salva (6/22/2007 10:55:59 PM): ok.

Kat (6/22/2007 10:56:26 PM): its been a hard month, i've hardly talked to
anyone

salva (6/22/2007 10:57:40 PM): hard month...have you gotten hit by a car while crying in your car at that moment because your mom called you to bitch you out at work? Or realized that in 3 days it'll be your ex's 2nd year of being dead?

Salva (6/22/2007 10:58:50 PM): maybe you have had a hard week of realizing that you really do need a new job? or that you wanna go back to college but cant afford it too

Kat (6/22/2007 10:59:20 PM): no, but it has been six months since Nick died, i have had my shoulder dislocated, my knee torn apart by my horse, brandon attempt to kill me, and generally a really fucked up school month

salva (6/22/2007 10:59:24 PM): My boss cut my hours in half insteasd of 40 i'm working 20 and am in debt

salva (6/22/2007 11:02:48 PM): you never seem to wanna talk to me these days part of me even wonders sometimes why I try with you.I'm always trying then when I dont try you dont either .. I really never see effort on your part to try to remain friends

Kat (6/22/2007 11:03:21 PM): well, i wasn't really aware there was a problem until you told me tonight...

Salva (6/22/2007 11:04:52 PM): i'm sure you werent..I know the world doesnt revolve around me and I'm fine with that kat. but every once in a while it would be nice to be noticed even a little

Kat (6/22/2007 11:05:39 PM): i'm sorry to have hurt your feelings

Salva (6/22/2007 11:06:00 PM): i mean hell Morph IMs me alot more then you and he only talks to me like 1 time every couple weeks

Kat (6/22/2007 11:06:10 PM): umm...he never talks to me

Kat (6/22/2007 11:06:22 PM): we got in a fight a long time ago, and don't talk anymore...

salva (6/22/2007 11:06:34 PM): last i knew you didnt like him

Kat (6/22/2007 11:07:02 PM): okay...

salva (6/22/2007 11:08:58 PM): if someone called your b/f and they were your friend too wouldnt you be hurt if they barely talked to you anymore and called him then didnt even say tell her hi for me?

Kat (6/22/2007 11:09:46 PM): no, because we didn't even get to finish the conversation, he had to leave for work in the middle of it

salva (6/22/2007 11:10:13 PM): i know he did because i was across from him when he told you that

Salva (6/22/2007 11:10:49 PM): and yeah he had to go to work infact you called him just before he had to go on air

Kat (6/22/2007 11:10:58 PM): *shrugs* point?>

Salva(6/22/2007 11:13:29 PM): you know what.. remain his friend but if you cant even understand a little then I'm not gonna bother anymore..you hurt me the other day and I dont see a need to continue getting hurt by you never seeming to wanna call me and always calling my b/f when your hurt instead of once in a while picking the phone up and calling me which would waste the same minutes

Kat (6/22/2007 11:14:02 PM): he's sympathetic...you tell me what i do wrong...

Kat (6/22/2007 11:14:11 PM): thats why i don't want to call you when i'm hurt

salva (6/22/2007 11:16:11 PM): I'm just as sympathetic most people come to me when they need a shoulder to cry on thank you.. If i wasnt I doubt VTMarik would even be dating my ass..if I always said what he did wrong and was never understanding and loving do you really think we would have made it this long?


Kat (6/22/2007 11:16:40 PM): *shrugs* no idea, the dynamics of your relationship is your business, not mine...

salva (6/22/2007 11:16:54 PM): your right..Bye.

Kat (6/22/2007 11:17:11 PM): bye...

salva (6/22/2007 11:17:47 PM): by the way that was a really bitch thing to ever say to me..so this really is bye lose my yahoo and my number

Kat (6/22/2007 11:18:00 PM): mmm hmm...

[b]

That IM and that person is exactly why I wasn't coming back till my friend DAZ had told my b/f he missed my posts... I had every female friend telling me to find a way to get my b/f to even leave her as a friend they felt that kat would try to make a move on my b/f with the way that conversation was and the things I was telling them about that bothered me which i basically explained in the conversation, and in this post.

I wont do it because I love him and trust him. I'll never make him choose between us.. I already told him that part as long as I dont have to hear about her or she doesn't call or talk to him when I'm there its okay. Online I don't care about that I just hope I'm not in the room when it happens..I realllllly Don't like her anymore... She was so sweet and nice at first, then boom nightmare from hell, or drama queen from hell.. I mean there I was simply trying to explain how i felt and instead of okay well how can we deal with this or something to that ability I get told off in a way. I dont need that or her in my life.

I missed some of you guys badly though I truly did.. I just didn't want to talk to her period and I dont know if I can ignore her on this site..

ttyl
Love Salva~

Sounds similar to my experience with her... Though a little bit more fucked up.

Anyway, she's gone now. She's left the forums, for a little while at least.

[hecter]

Do you think anybody will read that whole thing?

I know I didn't, after I saw the word s.xkitten I went to the bathroom and puked.

I read the whole thing...

[salvadevinemasse]

Do you think anybody will read that whole thing?

I know I didn't, after I saw the word s.xkitten I went to the bathroom and puked.

Do you not like her too? I just was letting everyone know why I no longer talk to her and seeing if anyone can explain it to her because last I heard she didnt understand

[hecter]

PS I may not have known you for all that long (you seemed to disappear a little while after I arrived) but I missed you

[salvadevinemasse]

PS I may not have known you for all that long (you seemed to disappear a little while after I arrived) but I missed you

Awwwwwz *hugs* Thanks! Yeah, Its good to be back...and now that i've been told that shes gone at least for a while I'll be on more maybe even if she returns. I just thought since she always seemed to be on and I didnt wanna start fights so I let her have this site. Then as soon as I was told by my b/f and others (DAZ) that i was being missed I said fine I'll get back on at least see what happens and explain my disappearance. I knew morph was fed up with her we talked about it from time to time.. Infact I gotta call him at some point see if he passed his exam or not!!

[mandalorian2298]

Do you think anybody will read that whole thing?

I know I didn't, after I saw the word s.xkitten I went to the bathroom and puked.

You don't know what you missed. It was a fascinating story about how Kitten was self centered and how that made Salva feel.

Yup, 1691 words about how somebody else being self centered kept Salva away from this site.

Fascinating, I tell you.

[Serbia]

Do you think anybody will read that whole thing?

I know I didn't, after I saw the word s.xkitten I went to the bathroom and puked.

You don't know what you missed. It was a fascinating story about how Kitten was self centered and how that made Salva feel.

Yup, 1691 words about how somebody else being self centered kept Salva away from this site.

Fascinating, I tell you.

Mandy, you're hilarious.

[salvadevinemasse]

Do you think anybody will read that whole thing?

I know I didn't, after I saw the word s.xkitten I went to the bathroom and puked.

You don't know what you missed. It was a fascinating story about how Kitten was self centered and how that made Salva feel.

Yup, 1691 words about how somebody else being self centered kept Salva away from this site.

Fascinating, I tell you.

Missed you too! lol. I know its long, and some people dont want to read it..But it was valid in my opinion. Honestly I almost didnt write it because I thought she'd reply pissed off at me. I felt I owed a reason to people as to what happened though...if that makes sence to anyone. I mean someone doesnt up and leave when they post their ass off a while without a reason. Everyone who knew me knew I didnt leave out of boredem..right?

[2dimes]

You should have told her how hawt Brandon's abs were. She allways loved it when I did.

[mandalorian2298]

Do you think anybody will read that whole thing?

I know I didn't, after I saw the word s.xkitten I went to the bathroom and puked.

You don't know what you missed. It was a fascinating story about how Kitten was self centered and how that made Salva feel.

Yup, 1691 words about how somebody else being self centered kept Salva away from this site.

Fascinating, I tell you.

Missed you too! lol. I know its long, and some people dont want to read it..But it was valid in my opinion. Honestly I almost didnt write it because I thought she'd reply pissed off at me. I felt I owed a reason to people as to what happened though...if that makes sence to anyone. I mean someone doesnt up and leave when they post their ass off a while without a reason. Everyone who knew me knew I didnt leave out of boredem..right?

Hey, I just tried to show things from another perspective. I get that way when people start speaking out against other people's faults.
Besides, being self centered isn't such a big fault. If I stoped speaking to everyone who is being self centered, I would have to stop speaking with myself. And then I would have to find a whole new way to spook people on the street!

[misterman10]

Do you think anybody will read that whole thing?

I know I didn't, after I saw the word s.xkitten I went to the bathroom and puked.

Do you not like her too? I just was letting everyone know why I no longer talk to her and seeing if anyone can explain it to her because last I heard she didnt understand

Nope, she's an attention loving bitch. She can't get over the fact that she's a waste of oxygen, and continuously attempts to raise her self-esteem by insulting others. She is the biggest bitch I have ever met.

[Beastly]

Don't worry Sal... Someday you will look back and just laugh at yourself for even posting this highschool B.S.

[BelJoDoe]

As part of what I 'do', I am often required to analyse language use, in particular the way people use it and the pragmatics behind the 'why'.

Honestly Salva, in the text that you have pasted, you come across as the least rational and the most aggressively confrontational.
Without counting, it seems to me that the majority of the accusatory declaratives originate with you as well as all the imperatives, which you use particularly aggressively, even beginning the conversation with one. By comparison, "Kat" seems rather conciliatory and hurt by the accusations. Kat attempts to answer all your questions and explain herself while you seem to take affront at her attempts to placate you with these explanations.

Certainly, when you use large monologues in the text, it seems more as if you've come to the conversation with little desire to engage in a discussion, simply wishing to hurt Kat with your words, instead.


In short, after reading all of the pasted IM, I'm more inclined to consider Kat as the injured party. If you truly feel otherwise then it seems obvious to me that misunderstanding on your part has occurred rather than anything about which Kat should feel guilty. Sorry.

[Beastly]

You forgot to point out that Kat did make a apology also....

[salvadevinemasse]

Do you think anybody will read that whole thing?

I know I didn't, after I saw the word s.xkitten I went to the bathroom and puked.

Do you not like her too? I just was letting everyone know why I no longer talk to her and seeing if anyone can explain it to her because last I heard she didnt understand

Nope, she's an attention loving bitch. She can't get over the fact that she's a waste of oxygen, and continuously attempts to raise her self-esteem by insulting others. She is the biggest bitch I have ever met.

i didnt use to see her as a bitch i use to see her as my friend till she started spending every chance possible talking to my b/f and it slowly became a spiral of if i heard from her it was always please call him for me and she wouldnt call me but she called him.. I basically saw her as a wanna be threat.. I didnt know how to handle it.. I dont care as much about the self centeredness..I can be at times to i admitt.. It was more how attached she was becoming to my b/f where she had full conversations with him and wouldnt tell him to say hi when he'd say salva is here with me .. Sometimes I'd hear "Wanna talk to her?" and she'd tell him no and instantly have to go or worse talk to him for 30 minutes or so crying while i was there cuddling into him. I dont think thats what a friend does..they dont ignore you every chance possible and in my point of view fall for your b/f which is what I think was going on

[misterman10]

As part of what I 'do', I am often required to analyse language use, in particular the way people use it and the pragmatics behind the 'why'.

Honestly Salva, in the text that you have pasted, you come across as the least rational and the most aggressively confrontational.
Without counting, it seems to me that the majority of the accusatory declaratives originate with you as well as all the imperatives, which you use particularly aggressively, even beginning the conversation with one. By comparison, "Kat" seems rather conciliatory and hurt by the accusations. Kat attempts to answer all your questions and explain herself while you seem to take affront at her attempts to placate you with these explanations.

Certainly, when you use large monologues in the text, it seems more as if you've come to the conversation with little desire to engage in a discussion, simply wishing to hurt Kat with your words, instead.


In short, after reading all of the pasted IM, I'm more inclined to consider Kat as the injured party. If you truly feel otherwise then it seems obvious to me that misunderstanding on your part has occurred rather than anything about which Kat should feel guilty. Sorry.

*raises hand*

Ooooh! Do me next, me next!

[mandalorian2298]

As part of what I 'do', I am often required to analyse language use, in particular the way people use it and the pragmatics behind the 'why'.

Honestly Salva, in the text that you have pasted, you come across as the least rational and the most aggressively confrontational.
Without counting, it seems to me that the majority of the accusatory declaratives originate with you as well as all the imperatives, which you use particularly aggressively, even beginning the conversation with one. By comparison, "Kat" seems rather conciliatory and hurt by the accusations. Kat attempts to answer all your questions and explain herself while you seem to take affront at her attempts to placate you with these explanations.

Certainly, when you use large monologues in the text, it seems more as if you've come to the conversation with little desire to engage in a discussion, simply wishing to hurt Kat with your words, instead.


In short, after reading all of the pasted IM, I'm more inclined to consider Kat as the injured party. If you truly feel otherwise then it seems obvious to me that misunderstanding on your part has occurred rather than anything about which Kat should feel guilty. Sorry.

*raises hand*

Ooooh! Do me next, me next!

Interseting refplex you got there Mm.

[salvadevinemasse]

As part of what I 'do', I am often required to analyse language use, in particular the way people use it and the pragmatics behind the 'why'.

Honestly Salva, in the text that you have pasted, you come across as the least rational and the most aggressively confrontational.
Without counting, it seems to me that the majority of the accusatory declaratives originate with you as well as all the imperatives, which you use particularly aggressively, even beginning the conversation with one. By comparison, "Kat" seems rather conciliatory and hurt by the accusations. Kat attempts to answer all your questions and explain herself while you seem to take affront at her attempts to placate you with these explanations.

Certainly, when you use large monologues in the text, it seems more as if you've come to the conversation with little desire to engage in a discussion, simply wishing to hurt Kat with your words, instead.


In short, after reading all of the pasted IM, I'm more inclined to consider Kat as the injured party. If you truly feel otherwise then it seems obvious to me that misunderstanding on your part has occurred rather than anything about which Kat should feel guilty. Sorry.

To be honest. I was just trying to see where I stood with her. I didnt want to be in a friendship where I wasn't being respected I was hurt which yes your right I was having a fire lit under me because she was taking advantage of my b/f in my POV for her self pity which yes was brought about by mr abs.. (KRamsey) She was being mean and rude by not even saying hello when she claimed to be a friend..she refused to call me and yeah she seemed to claim it was a minutes issue but if it was such an issue then why was she calling my b/f still? Most girls would have felt threatened..Sorry but ask any girl whos had a back stabbing friend steal an at the moment b/f they'll all tell you I was right to feel what i did

[salvadevinemasse]

You forgot to point out that Kat did make a apology also....

But she wasnt trying ... you can only say sorry so many times till it no longer counts. She said sorry a bunch of times but she made no effort to change how she did things. all it would have taken was an IM the next day after I cooled down.. or some sign that she still cared about me and we wouldnt be here today with this post and I would have still been a friend. No sign from her period that she cared about our relationship

[salvadevinemasse]

As part of what I 'do', I am often required to analyse language use, in particular the way people use it and the pragmatics behind the 'why'.

Honestly Salva, in the text that you have pasted, you come across as the least rational and the most aggressively confrontational.
Without counting, it seems to me that the majority of the accusatory declaratives originate with you as well as all the imperatives, which you use particularly aggressively, even beginning the conversation with one. By comparison, "Kat" seems rather conciliatory and hurt by the accusations. Kat attempts to answer all your questions and explain herself while you seem to take affront at her attempts to placate you with these explanations.

Certainly, when you use large monologues in the text, it seems more as if you've come to the conversation with little desire to engage in a discussion, simply wishing to hurt Kat with your words, instead.


In short, after reading all of the pasted IM, I'm more inclined to consider Kat as the injured party. If you truly feel otherwise then it seems obvious to me that misunderstanding on your part has occurred rather than anything about which Kat should feel guilty. Sorry.

*raises hand*

Ooooh! Do me next, me next!

*gives you a sex toy* You can do it yourself!!

[mandalorian2298]

As part of what I 'do', I am often required to analyse language use, in particular the way people use it and the pragmatics behind the 'why'.

Honestly Salva, in the text that you have pasted, you come across as the least rational and the most aggressively confrontational.
Without counting, it seems to me that the majority of the accusatory declaratives originate with you as well as all the imperatives, which you use particularly aggressively, even beginning the conversation with one. By comparison, "Kat" seems rather conciliatory and hurt by the accusations. Kat attempts to answer all your questions and explain herself while you seem to take affront at her attempts to placate you with these explanations.

Certainly, when you use large monologues in the text, it seems more as if you've come to the conversation with little desire to engage in a discussion, simply wishing to hurt Kat with your words, instead.


In short, after reading all of the pasted IM, I'm more inclined to consider Kat as the injured party. If you truly feel otherwise then it seems obvious to me that misunderstanding on your part has occurred rather than anything about which Kat should feel guilty. Sorry.

To be honest. I was just trying to see where I stood with her. I didnt want to be in a friendship where I wasn't being respected I was hurt which yes your right I was having a fire lit under me because she was taking advantage of my b/f in my POV for her self pity which yes was brought about by mr abs.. (KRamsey) She was being mean and rude by not even saying hello when she claimed to be a friend..she refused to call me and yeah she seemed to claim it was a minutes issue but if it was such an issue then why was she calling my b/f still? Most girls would have felt threatened..Sorry but ask any girl whos had a back stabbing friend steal an at the moment b/f they'll all tell you I was right to feel what i did

So, Kitten was so self centered that she didn't start her conversations with VT about the guy tried to kill her with saying 'Hi' to you? How dared she?! Some people really think that they are all alone in the world.

[DAZMCFC]

Bollocks i will standby salva all the way. she is a lovely woman and with her boyfriend VTM i am glad she is back on the forums i missed her alot. i hope she stays on here now and forget about s_x kitten she has not been seen for a while..

[salvadevinemasse]

Bollocks i will standby salva all the way. she is a lovely woman and with her boyfriend VTM i am glad she is back on the forums i missed her alot. i hope she stays on here now and forget about s_x kitten she has not been seen for a while..

*Gives you the biggest hug in the world for that!!*