Conquer Club

When tough times hit you, who is the best person/group of persons for you to get advice from? How bad would something have to be in your life before you would be willing to ask for advice in the first place? We all go through tough times, but should we seek counsel from someone who knows us...or should we seek the help of an objective professional?

Why didn't you ask me for some advice before starting this poll?

I voted for family member. Of course, I get opinions from many family members before making a final decision on tough matters.

Conquer Club, or I go to the jail, and ask my buddies there what they think.

I'm not sure if it's working.

Fircoal wrote:Conquer Club, or I go to the jail, and ask my buddies there what they think.

I'm not sure if it's working.

Do you know NUKE?

luns101 wrote:

Fircoal wrote:Conquer Club, or I go to the jail, and ask my buddies there what they think.

I'm not sure if it's working.

Do you know NUKE?

nope. [size=0]I was kidding if you couldn't tell[/size]

I work through it myself. I don't need anyone telling me how to fix my problems. I'm in control of my life and I'm the only one who can change what I don't like.

The bottom of a pint glass.

Stopper wrote:The bottom of a pint glass.

Nah. You never find it in the first...

i keep a lot of my life seperate from my family, i don't know why, i just do, so i normally consult a friend

diddle wrote:i keep a lot of my life seperate from my family, i don't know why, i just do, so i normally consult a friend

QTF. I hardly tell my parents anything. Though, I may consult a friend, a close one, or just sought it out myself.

None of the above, I tend to keep problems bottled up and work on instinct when I am trying to solve issues that I have.

Skittles! wrote:

diddle wrote:i keep a lot of my life seperate from my family, i don't know why, i just do, so i normally consult a friend

QTF. I hardly tell my parents anything. Though, I may consult a friend, a close one, or just sought it out myself.

i know, i just know my parents wouldn't approve

diddle wrote:

Skittles! wrote:

diddle wrote:i keep a lot of my life seperate from my family, i don't know why, i just do, so i normally consult a friend

QTF. I hardly tell my parents anything. Though, I may consult a friend, a close one, or just sought it out myself.

i know, i just know my parents wouldn't approve

Approve of what? If you don't mind me asking.
And why wouldn't they? A parent should always approve of whatever their child does or is. No matter what their personal beliefs are.

Skittles! wrote:

diddle wrote:

Skittles! wrote:

diddle wrote:i keep a lot of my life seperate from my family, i don't know why, i just do, so i normally consult a friend

QTF. I hardly tell my parents anything. Though, I may consult a friend, a close one, or just sought it out myself.

i know, i just know my parents wouldn't approve

Approve of what? If you don't mind me asking.
And why wouldn't they? A parent should always approve of whatever their child does or is. No matter what their personal beliefs are.

well, lets just say they think i'm a perfect student who never messes about and always does his homework and behaves.....the reality is much different, and my sister was so perfect aswell, they want me to be just like her

diddle wrote:

Skittles! wrote:

diddle wrote:

Skittles! wrote:

diddle wrote:i keep a lot of my life seperate from my family, i don't know why, i just do, so i normally consult a friend

QTF. I hardly tell my parents anything. Though, I may consult a friend, a close one, or just sought it out myself.

i know, i just know my parents wouldn't approve

Approve of what? If you don't mind me asking.
And why wouldn't they? A parent should always approve of whatever their child does or is. No matter what their personal beliefs are.

well, lets just say they think i'm a perfect student who never messes about and always does his homework and behaves.....the reality is much different, and my sister was so perfect aswell, they want me to be just like her

Ha, yeah, that would suck. Well, I hope they don't put too much pressure on you, and remember, no one is perfect, they just do the best they can.

Skittles! wrote:

diddle wrote:

Skittles! wrote:

diddle wrote:

Skittles! wrote:

diddle wrote:i keep a lot of my life seperate from my family, i don't know why, i just do, so i normally consult a friend

QTF. I hardly tell my parents anything. Though, I may consult a friend, a close one, or just sought it out myself.

i know, i just know my parents wouldn't approve

Approve of what? If you don't mind me asking.
And why wouldn't they? A parent should always approve of whatever their child does or is. No matter what their personal beliefs are.

well, lets just say they think i'm a perfect student who never messes about and always does his homework and behaves.....the reality is much different, and my sister was so perfect aswell, they want me to be just like her

Ha, yeah, that would suck. Well, I hope they don't put too much pressure on you, and remember, no one is perfect, they just do the best they can.

thanks, that sounds like something outta a disney movie

Psh, it must be corny then.

And I doubt your sister was quite as 'perfect' as it seemed to be.

Skittles! wrote:Psh, it must be corny then.

And I doubt your sister was quite as 'perfect' as it seemed to be.

well, she wasn't very good at maths, and i was

its so annying, i'm good at all the subjects i hate

diddle wrote:

Skittles! wrote:Psh, it must be corny then.

And I doubt your sister was quite as 'perfect' as it seemed to be.

well, she wasn't very good at maths, and i was

its so annying, i'm good at all the subjects i hate

I love maths. It's quite fantastic and amazing. You'll probably start to like it soon enough.

But back on topic..

yeah, my friends are real good friends, we never ever really fall out

I am surprised that more people have not selected a licensed professional as a source of good advice! So these people that have chosen that profession go through school and countless hours of training and people would rather talk to someone else. I think that says a lot.

...or maybe it's a $$ issue as well.

Skittles! wrote:A parent should always approve of whatever their child does or is. No matter what their personal beliefs are.

I hope you were just kidding when you wrote that.

If not...please explain.

luns101 wrote:

Skittles! wrote:A parent should always approve of whatever their child does or is. No matter what their personal beliefs are.

I hope you were just kidding when you wrote that.

If not...please explain.

I disagree with both of you. A parent should to a certain extent tolerate what a child does BECAUSE they are their primary teachers.

any problems i have i just ask my little 8ball thing

luns101 wrote:I am surprised that more people have not selected a licensed professional as a source of good advice! So these people that have chosen that profession go through school and countless hours of training and people would rather talk to someone else. I think that says a lot.

...or maybe it's a $$ issue as well.

"Licensed professionals" - LMAO! If you take a self obsessed wanker and give him "years of professional training", he will still be a wanker, but he will be educated and even more self obsessed. If you think that education magically transforms a loser into an apt counselor, you are very naive (to put it nicely) I was sent to a plethora of counselors and psychologists from the time i was 5 or 6, until i left home at 16, and found them all to be rather dumb, but well payed. During those formative years, i found some adults that were able to get through to me, and some that i even learned from, but none of these were "trained professionals", aside from a couple of teachers, who were not trained as psychologists or counselors. I have a degree in social work, and am now "qualified" as a professional, but they taught me absolutely nothing as far as counseling people. The only reason i got the degree was so that i could "legitimately" do what i was doing already. You put way to much emphasis on this so called "professional training". You want someone "qualified" to give advice? Find someone who has been "chewed up and spit out" and lived to tell the tale.