Coleman wrote:hecter wrote:btownmeggy wrote:Coleman wrote:I'm actually dating someone that is very much not a feminist and in fact rather anti-feminist, she feels like feminism ruined any chances of her having the life she wanted to have.
Yeah, 'cuz housewives are like... SO OPPRESSED by the rampant feminism of our society.

Well there is a societal pressure now for her to work, which she doesn't think she should have to do, she'd rather be a housewife.
Which is more then you really need to know.

OF COURSE she'd rather be a housewife! Who wouldn't!?! My dream job, oh yes, yes, yes it is. Unfortunately, we can't
all be lazy bums. 100 years ago, it was considerably more time-consuming to keep a house, and thus it was considerably more reasonable to have one or more people dedicate themselves entirely to doing so on the behalf of an entire family. Today, it doesn't take two days to do a load of wash.
Now, dedicating oneself to parenting is an entirely different matter, as I think anyone would agree.
But that's just a side note, not the point of my original, sarcastic oppression-related post. Maybe there is some pressure to not just be a "housewife" (taking care of a husband who's not even there most of the time) in most of our culture today (though definitely not the case in Utah, or Wyoming, or wherever you live), simply because people are going to be wondering, "How in the world is she spending all her time? She must not be right in the head." (I should say, this stigma only applies to younger ladies, not older ladies.)
However, being a stay-at-home-mother, which I think fits into the category of future that your girlfriend wants, is an immensely socially acceptable position. A lot of women (and men) would like to be, but can't or choose not to be for financial reasons. Lots of people aren't because they know it would drive them crazy, but still say things like "You're so brave" to their friends are are. You probably don't very many young families, being a teenage boy and all, but think about your mother and the mothers of your friends. Their generation is not so terribly different from that of your girlfriend, all things considered. If you live in a typical suburban or small-town neighborhood, probably a lot of them are stay-at-home-moms. Ask them if they feel oppressed. Ask them what oppresses them. I bet most of them do not recognize their oppression, and I bet many of them feel much more oppressed by their children than by feminists. I know you'll never do this, being a teenage boy and all, but consider the meaning.
As to your girlfriend: If there is anyone who pressures her to not follow her dreams, EVEN BEING A LAZY-BUM HOUSEWIFE, she should probably not marry them. It's no one else's business.
With that in mind:
Coleman wrote:Which is more then you really need to know.

THEN WHY ARE YOU TELLING, YOU TWIT?