tzor wrote:PLAYER57832 wrote:That said, proper discussion includes more than just "don't have sex before marriage", it includes discussion of STDs, contraceptives, pregnancy issues, etc, as well as other issues (puberty, etc.) and, while a public education does not teach morals per se, it should include a realistic discussion of consequences, and some basic talk of various views in society. Lest someone mention it, I homosexuality/transgender identities should be mentioned because they are now part of the societal discussion.
I think that "sex education" (I prefer reproductive education) needs to have three components. It must be age / developmental level appropriate. It must be based on rational thought and science. It must not insert a political or moral agenda.
Armed with proper information I would also tend to lean to a "just say no" approach. The reason is a bit more complex; full frontal lobe development doesn't occur into well into college years. That means there is a greater chance to "act on impulses." Would "just say no" be 100% effective, probably not, but probably more effective than always remembering to carry a condom on the chance you do act on that impulse.
Proper sex education has that as its background. The real problem is that a large segment of society does not agree. I have a neighbor who basically encouraged her daughter to get pregnant. (children and youth were involved). Others don't overtly say that, but act in well, a manner that makes it no surprise when their daughters get pregnant. In those cases, ironically enough, abortion is not an issue because they just have the kids. The real abortion problem comes with the segment of girls who just really don't believe they can get pregnant -- at all, the first time, etc, etc. Proper sex education cannot prevent all of that, but it does go a long way. Its like anything else. If you give teens a chance to really hear and discuss the facts, including the temptations, etc., then it works. This is not opinion, teen pregnancy rates do go down where there is appropriate sex education.
Those are really 2 different issues. Issues like masturbation and even homosexuality are just mentioned as things that can happen, that these urges/activities do not make you insane, etc. Its up to the parents and churches to give moral guidance, but schools need to distinguish fact from opinion. In my class, this was handled by having students pick their own topics for a complete research paper. Some kids chose those topics, gave the reports. The teacher made sure the facts presented were accurate, put limits on the kinds of photos that could be brought and other general guidelines.tzor wrote:There is also a tremendous gray area in some subjects that might have a moral implication to them. Masturbation would be one of them. It gets more complex because of the complex nature of education and child molestation prevention. If done, it needs to be based on the above criteria.
tzor wrote:I learned a lot from the primitive sex education class at my public elementary school (6th grade). I needed permission to also watch the video for the girls, accompanied by my father who insisted that the film for the girls was more informative than the one for the boys.
We did not have that option, but there were many opportunities for both boys and girls.. it began with the very basics about puberty and then, later into more details until we basically had the full rough idea around 7th grade or so. As freshmen, we got the more complete story. Unfortunately, that timeline has to be moved up in many locals.
Molestation issues are dealt with beginning in preschool, protect your body/its private, etc, etc. They don't need details, they just need to know these areas are private and adults trying to see them other than specific instances ( doctors, etc.) are just not OK.