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riskllama wrote:Koolbak wins this thread.
Dukasaur wrote:Whenever someone finds out I'm Czech, right away they have to tell me the joke, "Do you know what they call an abortion in Czechoslovakia? A cancelled Czech!" And then they laugh, "HAR! HAR! HAR! HAR!" as if they just said the funniest thing in the universe.
That joke was already old and tired when Steve Martin made it famous in the second season of Saturday Night Live, which was I think '77 or '78 or something like that.
The joke itself doesn't bother me, just the sheer tedium and predictability of it. You'd think after all these years somebody could invent a 2nd Czech joke. When you're Polish or French or Scottish, there are literally hundreds of thousands of jokes about you that people can choose to rib you with. You might even hear a new one every now and then. When you're Czech there's one. One joke, over and over and over again, with every new person you meet. It's a special kind of hell.
jonesthecurl wrote:Dukasaur wrote:Whenever someone finds out I'm Czech, right away they have to tell me the joke, "Do you know what they call an abortion in Czechoslovakia? A cancelled Czech!" And then they laugh, "HAR! HAR! HAR! HAR!" as if they just said the funniest thing in the universe.
That joke was already old and tired when Steve Martin made it famous in the second season of Saturday Night Live, which was I think '77 or '78 or something like that.
The joke itself doesn't bother me, just the sheer tedium and predictability of it. You'd think after all these years somebody could invent a 2nd Czech joke. When you're Polish or French or Scottish, there are literally hundreds of thousands of jokes about you that people can choose to rib you with. You might even hear a new one every now and then. When you're Czech there's one. One joke, over and over and over again, with every new person you meet. It's a special kind of hell.
Czech, mate.
mrswdk wrote:'Microagression' is a really shrill term but it is describing a genuine thing. Like 2d says, asking a gay person how their wife is, asking someone who isn't white 'where are you from... no where are you really from?', trying to bond with your black colleague by talking about reggae and fried chicken, etc. Comments that make people feel like they don't 'fit in' and/or are being defined by others around them primarily based on their ethnicity/sex/whatever. The person making those comments is not being in any way aggressive and so 'microagression' is a pretty stupid term, but the comments do matter.
mrswdk wrote:Imagine you go and live in Japan. The first person you meet asks where you're from, you say the US, and they reply 'oh you must like hamburgers' or 'are you a cowboy?'. The first couple of times you might think that's fairly funny that they assumed that. After that's happened to you 40-50 times it's probably starting to grate a bit. After 100-200 comments like that you're slightly relieved when people don't start a conversation by asking where you're from. When those weird little comments are the constant background noise in your day-to-day life they can start to get pretty tiring, even if each individual comment by itself is no big deal.
jimboston wrote:mrswdk wrote:'Microagression' is a really shrill term but it is describing a genuine thing. Like 2d says, asking a gay person how their wife is, asking someone who isn't white 'where are you from... no where are you really from?', trying to bond with your black colleague by talking about reggae and fried chicken, etc. Comments that make people feel like they don't 'fit in' and/or are being defined by others around them primarily based on their ethnicity/sex/whatever. The person making those comments is not being in any way aggressive and so 'microagression' is a pretty stupid term, but the comments do matter.
I ask the “where are you from” question ALL THE TIME. Mostly it’s related to someone’s accent and not their color. If people are offended by this they need to chill.
jimboston wrote:mrswdk wrote:Imagine you go and live in Japan. The first person you meet asks where you're from, you say the US, and they reply 'oh you must like hamburgers' or 'are you a cowboy?'. The first couple of times you might think that's fairly funny that they assumed that. After that's happened to you 40-50 times it's probably starting to grate a bit. After 100-200 comments like that you're slightly relieved when people don't start a conversation by asking where you're from. When those weird little comments are the constant background noise in your day-to-day life they can start to get pretty tiring, even if each individual comment by itself is no big deal.
So don’t bother trying to connect with anyone ever? Most starting points for conversation are basic and (if you connect) conversation can grow from there. The basic starting points are often related to where someone is from regardless of whether they’re ‘merican or not.
jimboston wrote:mrswdk wrote:'Microagression' is a really shrill term but it is describing a genuine thing. Like 2d says, asking a gay person how their wife is, asking someone who isn't white 'where are you from... no where are you really from?', trying to bond with your black colleague by talking about reggae and fried chicken, etc. Comments that make people feel like they don't 'fit in' and/or are being defined by others around them primarily based on their ethnicity/sex/whatever. The person making those comments is not being in any way aggressive and so 'microagression' is a pretty stupid term, but the comments do matter.
I ask the “where are you from” question ALL THE TIME. Mostly it’s related to someone’s accent and not their color. If people are offended by this they need to chill.
jimboston wrote:mrswdk wrote:Imagine you go and live in Japan. The first person you meet asks where you're from, you say the US, and they reply 'oh you must like hamburgers' or 'are you a cowboy?'. The first couple of times you might think that's fairly funny that they assumed that. After that's happened to you 40-50 times it's probably starting to grate a bit. After 100-200 comments like that you're slightly relieved when people don't start a conversation by asking where you're from. When those weird little comments are the constant background noise in your day-to-day life they can start to get pretty tiring, even if each individual comment by itself is no big deal.
So don’t bother trying to connect with anyone ever? Most starting points for conversation are basic and (if you connect) conversation can grow from there. The basic starting points are often related to where someone is from regardless of whether they’re ‘merican or not.
mrswdk wrote:
jimboston wrote:Microaggressions are a bullshit phrase for people who have nothing serious to bitch about.
If I don’t know you and don’t know whether your married, single. divorced, or widowed... then I’m not gonna ask about your wife/husband.
Someone who doesn’t know you and does this is just dumb.... an idiot, being stupid not being ‘aggressive’.
If I do know you and know you’re a gay man, then I’m not gonna ask about your wife.
(Or I might if I know you really well, like if you were my buddy, and we regularly busted each other’s chops about various things.)
Someone else who knows you are a gay man and asks about your wife is either joking or an ass.
You don’t need to invent a new term “micro-aggression” to describe someone being an ass.
The term is like ‘workplace bullying”.
Someone invents it to describe a situation where in the past you could just say “He’s an ass.”
Then weak willed wimps start using it to describe other innocent and/or minor workplace conflicts.
Some people seem to enjoy labeling themselves as victims.
mrswdk wrote:jimboston wrote:Microaggressions are a bullshit phrase for people who have nothing serious to bitch about.
If I don’t know you and don’t know whether your married, single. divorced, or widowed... then I’m not gonna ask about your wife/husband.
Someone who doesn’t know you and does this is just dumb.... an idiot, being stupid not being ‘aggressive’.
If I do know you and know you’re a gay man, then I’m not gonna ask about your wife.
(Or I might if I know you really well, like if you were my buddy, and we regularly busted each other’s chops about various things.)
Someone else who knows you are a gay man and asks about your wife is either joking or an ass.
You don’t need to invent a new term “micro-aggression” to describe someone being an ass.
The term is like ‘workplace bullying”.
Someone invents it to describe a situation where in the past you could just say “He’s an ass.”
Then weak willed wimps start using it to describe other innocent and/or minor workplace conflicts.
Some people seem to enjoy labeling themselves as victims.
Who are you talking to? Because I also said that it's a dumb term on account of the people who say these things not being aggressive.
I was hoping the semantics would be an opportunity for us to bond for a change!
jimboston wrote:
You’re agreeing the term is dumb... but you seem to be saying that asking someone where they’re from is bad.
Dukasaur wrote:jimboston wrote:
You’re agreeing the term is dumb... but you seem to be saying that asking someone where they’re from is bad.
I think you've missed the point. It's not the "where are you from?" it's the "where are you really from?"
I don't usually waste time on YouTube videos, but this one is only 2 minutes and 20 seconds. I think you can afford it.
jimboston wrote:Dukasaur wrote:jimboston wrote:
You’re agreeing the term is dumb... but you seem to be saying that asking someone where they’re from is bad.
I think you've missed the point. It's not the "where are you from?" it's the "where are you really from?"
I don't usually waste time on YouTube videos, but this one is only 2 minutes and 20 seconds. I think you can afford it.
Please don’t defend mrswdk. He can defend himself fine.
riskllama wrote:this thread was better when it was about stormtrooper helmets...
2dimes wrote:Is what's your heritage ok?
Ancestry.
Dukasaur wrote:riskllama wrote:this thread was better when it was about stormtrooper helmets...
Your mom wears a stormtrooper helmet.
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