Conquer Club, Help Me!

[AndrewLC]

Actually I have a very STRONG relationship, and that is because my husband is not going behind my back to meet women on the internet.

That was the whole situation, and you all seem to think it is ok.

I don't agree, and to answer strike wolf.

I can talk to all the men I want! I just don't make plans to secretly meet with them.

WE'RE NOT TALKING ABOUT THIS GUYS SITUATION!!! We're talking about in general! You're talking about your husband making plans to see a woman, whether or not you know. Not sneaking out behind your back! f*ck...

Perhaps we should all turn to the same page before continuing the discussion.

You're a goon too!?

[Beastly]

I am aware of that, I know what it means. But just a regular friendship is not exactly 'intimacy' now is it? Why is it if you had exactly the same kind of friendship with one person of the same sex is okay but if you had the same friendship with a person of the opposite gender suddenly it is not?

I will say it again *sighs*.. IF you are in a committed exclusive live together relationship, it can complicate, stress, and put strain on a relationship. Because always in the back of her mind,(I don't know if guys are like this but I suppose some may) she will be worrying that maybe the girl is not trustworthy and lets say her husband doesn't want to have sex or whatever a circumstance happen, the girl may suspect something that is totally innocent.

Girls and Guys can have friendships..That's not the issue.

The issue is should a man who is living with a girlfriend, seek companionship of another woman. ANd I said, it would may complicate the relationship. Possibly damage it beyond repair.

[hecter]

I am aware of that, I know what it means. But just a regular friendship is not exactly 'intimacy' now is it? Why is it if you had exactly the same kind of friendship with one person of the same sex is okay but if you had the same friendship with a person of the opposite gender suddenly it is not?

I will say it again *sighs*.. IF you are in a committed exclusive live together relationship, it can complicate, stress, and put strain on a relationship. Because always in the back of her mind,(I don't know if guys are like this but I suppose some may) she will be worrying that maybe the girl is not trustworthy and lets say her husband doesn't want to have sex or whatever a circumstance happen, the girl may suspect something that is totally innocent.

Girls and Guys can have friendships..That's not the issue.

The issue is should a man who is living with a girlfriend, seek companionship of another woman. ANd I said, it would may complicate the relationship. Possibly damage it beyond repair.

Then the woman has some serious trust issues and needs a therapist, not a boyfriend.

[strike wolf]

Listen, beastly I am not going to argue with you as you seem pretty set into this mind set and all, but you need to consider it from both sides. Not all men are sleeze bags and many men like to seek out friends of both genders with completely innocent reasons.

Second, you might want to watch what you say because a lot of your comments can be viewed as sexist.

[Beastly]

So your saying a woman should totally trust every woman that spends time alone with a man that is already in a exclusive relationship.

And your saying a woman should always trust her man, if he needs to spend time with other women, ALONE?

I don't get you people? OH ya I forgot how young you are....

Wait till people bite you in the ass, and then we will see how trusting you are.

NO I don't trust people, call it issues call it whatever you want. I trust that my man won't be spending time and having intimacy, companionship and alone time with any other woman. That's what I trust. If he does do this, then the trust is gone!

[hecter]

So your saying a woman should totally trust every woman that spends time alone with a man that is already in a exclusive relationship.

And your saying a woman should always trust her man, if he needs to spend time with other women, ALONE?

The woman doesn't have to trust the women her boyfriend hangs out with, as long as she trusts her boyfriend. If you can't trust the people you love, then you can't trust anybody at all, and I pity you for it.

[muy_thaiguy]

Beastly, what we are saying is, LIGHTEN UP ON GUYS! We are not all untrustworthy, we like to have friends of both sexes. Also, relationships are also about trust, apparently you don't trust your current dpouse unless he is under your thumb. Trust is what a relationship is supposed to be about.

[Beastly]

Beastly, what we are saying is, LIGHTEN UP ON GUYS! We are not all untrustworthy, we like to have friends of both sexes. Also, relationships are also about trust, apparently you don't trust your current dpouse unless he is under your thumb. Trust is what a relationship is supposed to be about.

I would like for you to post where I said all guys are untrustworthy.

In fact I said the opposite, I have a very trustworthy husband, and I know very trustworthy men....

show me where I said anything like that?

I said..AGAIN *sighs* no forget it, go look it up. I also said that I trust my husband not to seek out other women. IF you males think it is a good idea.
Go do it. Just make sure your living or married to someone when you do it. Make sure you have invested something into your relationship. Make sure you don't tell the one who so trusts you that your going to go meet some gal you met on the internet and then make sure you tell her you are attracted to her.

YOU all are being way to defensive. OPEN your minds just a little bit, and allow the thought that NOT ALL women can be trusted. and that NOT ALL men can say no to a woman they are attracted to. Sheesh oh man,

[hecter]

Beastly, what we are saying is, LIGHTEN UP ON GUYS! We are not all untrustworthy, we like to have friends of both sexes. Also, relationships are also about trust, apparently you don't trust your current dpouse unless he is under your thumb. Trust is what a relationship is supposed to be about.

I would like for you to post where I said all guys are untrustworthy.

In fact I said the opposite, I have a very trustworthy husband, and I know very trustworthy men....

show me where I said anything like that?

I said..AGAIN *sighs* no forget it, go look it up. I also said that I trust my husband not to seek out other women. IF you males think it is a good idea.
Go do it. Just make sure your living or married to someone when you do it. Make sure you have invested something into your relationship. Make sure you don't tell the one who so trusts you that your going to go meet some gal you met on the internet and then make sure you tell her you are attracted to her.

YOU all are being way to defensive. OPEN your minds just a little bit, and allow the thought that NOT ALL women can be trusted. and that NOT ALL men can say no to a woman they are attracted to. Sheesh oh man,

God damnit... I'm done with this. You win, what ever, I don't care anymore... It's like talking to a brick wall...

[muy_thaiguy]

Beastly, what we are saying is, LIGHTEN UP ON GUYS! We are not all untrustworthy, we like to have friends of both sexes. Also, relationships are also about trust, apparently you don't trust your current dpouse unless he is under your thumb. Trust is what a relationship is supposed to be about.

I would like for you to post where I said all guys are untrustworthy.

In fact I said the opposite, I have a very trustworthy husband, and I know very trustworthy men....

show me where I said anything like that?

I said..AGAIN *sighs* no forget it, go look it up. I also said that I trust my husband not to seek out other women. IF you males think it is a good idea.
Go do it. Just make sure your living or married to someone when you do it. Make sure you have invested something into your relationship. Make sure you don't tell the one who so trusts you that your going to go meet some gal you met on the internet and then make sure you tell her you are attracted to her.

YOU all are being way to defensive. OPEN your minds just a little bit, and allow the thought that NOT ALL women can be trusted. and that NOT ALL men can say no to a woman they are attracted to. Sheesh oh man,

When you make it sound that all men are untrustworthy from your first marriage, when you control your husband, when men can't hang out with women, which according to you will automatically be cheating, etc.. And you have not given the impression that you know any trustworthy men.

[Beastly]

Hecter why don't you try convincing me it's ok when you got a marriage and a couple kids...

A question for all you guys who believe it is ok to spend Time Alone with another women.

Do your fathers do that?

[muy_thaiguy]

Hecter why don't you try convincing me it's ok when you got a marriage and a couple kids...

A question for all you guys who believe it is ok to spend Time Alone with another women.

Do your fathers do that?

For the last part, I wouldn't know, I have never met my father, nor had an actual father figure. I have been raised by my mother and my grandmother all my life. But if you say your husband is trustworthy, don't be on top of him all of the time.

[hecter]

Hecter why don't you try convincing me it's ok when you got a marriage and a couple kids...

A question for all you guys who believe it is ok to spend Time Alone with another women.

Do your fathers do that?

I'd be happy too, and yes, he does, though that doesn't really matter now, does it? Him being a bachelor and all.

[Beastly]

For the last part, I wouldn't know, I have never met my father, nor had an actual father figure. I have been raised by my mother and my grandmother all my life. But if you say your husband is trustworthy, don't be on top of him all of the time.

hon, I am not on top of him, except for well, anywho,

I did say, that the lines are drawn, and I am in a exclusive relationship. That means it is clearly put that we don't seek companionship from the other gender. This saves me from having to be worried, or being controlling. I trust that he won't do it.

Don't you get it yet?

And I am only saying this applies to marriage or living with someone.

If your only dating, well, you have other boundaries to discuss, and agree upon.

[freezie]

Beastly, get the f*ck out.

You're repeating your wrong assumptions back and forth, ands you have nothing to do in a love debate when you just want your man to give you a good time in bed. That's not love.

Keep your man for having a friendship life, and give him what he wants his bed.

BUT FOR HEAVEN'S SAKE' KEEP THE f*ck OUT OF A LOVE DISSCUSION.


He said his Girlfriend know, how is that secretly GOING OUT with another woman?!

No, he stayed friend. Bingo, no problems.

Now shut up. For us all.

[Beastly]

Freezie, sorry to imform you, but you now have no voice.

YOU are not a mod, and nobody important, and I can be here if I want, If you don't like it, you get the f*ck out!

we are conversating, and if you want in... then grow up and discuss.

Also Freezie you are not setting a very good example for people by behaving that way in a forum! Take it to flame wars asshole!

I will never shut up!

[misterman10]

Freezie, sorry to imform you, but you now have no voice.

YOU are not a mod, and nobody important, and I can be here if I want, If you don't like it, you get the f*ck out!

we are conversating, and if you want in... then grow up and discuss.

I check this thread as there seems to be a ton of conflict, and the first post I see, Beastly makes a fool of herself.

Have fun conversating

[freezie]

Which I have been doing, but I don't want to repeat the same thing voert and over for a '' woman '' who doesn't seem to udnerstand what the whole situation is about.

I can't force you to leave. But don't throw your ( bad ) reptuation lower by '' debating '' here.

[Iliad]

Freezie, sorry to imform you, but you now have no voice.

YOU are not a mod, and nobody important, and I can be here if I want, If you don't like it, you get the f*ck out!

we are conversating, and if you want in... then grow up and discuss.

I check this thread as there seems to be a ton of conflict, and the first post I see, Beastly makes a fool of herself.

Have fun conversating

Yeah and make sure to illiterate your points to the other person!

[freezie]

Beastly, what we are saying is, LIGHTEN UP ON GUYS! We are not all untrustworthy, we like to have friends of both sexes. Also, relationships are also about trust, apparently you don't trust your current dpouse unless he is under your thumb. Trust is what a relationship is supposed to be about.

I would like for you to post where I said all guys are untrustworthy.

In fact I said the opposite, I have a very trustworthy husband, and I know very trustworthy men....

show me where I said anything like that?

I said..AGAIN *sighs* no forget it, go look it up. I also said that I trust my husband not to seek out other women. IF you males think it is a good idea.
Go do it. Just make sure your living or married to someone when you do it. Make sure you have invested something into your relationship. Make sure you don't tell the one who so trusts you that your going to go meet some gal you met on the internet and then make sure you tell her you are attracted to her.

YOU all are being way to defensive. OPEN your minds just a little bit, and allow the thought that NOT ALL women can be trusted. and that NOT ALL men can say no to a woman they are attracted to. Sheesh oh man,

God damnit... I'm done with this. You win, what ever, I don't care anymore... It's like talking to a brick wall...

No kidding.

[Beastly]

IF you can't stick to the subject at hand, and don't like what you are reading then simply leave.

YOU have nothing good to imput and have hi-jacked the thread, by flaming in a non-flame war forum.

But, again, it shows your ages!

[wicked]

Wow you can just feel the sexual tension in this thread. And I didn't even read the whole thing. Let's calm it down guys, everyone has a right to be here and post here. If you can't disagree w/o resulting to flaming, then either ignore the other person or don't respond. Group hug anyone?

[misterman10]

Group hug anyone?

Only if your in it...

[Beastly]

Beastly, get the f*ck out.

You're repeating your wrong assumptions back and forth, ands you have nothing to do in a love debate when you just want your man to give you a good time in bed. That's not love.

Keep your man for having a friendship life, and give him what he wants his bed.

BUT FOR HEAVEN'S SAKE' KEEP THE f*ck OUT OF A LOVE DISSCUSION.


He said his Girlfriend know, how is that secretly GOING OUT with another woman?!

No, he stayed friend. Bingo, no problems.

Now shut up. For us all.

Could you make yourself a little more clearer... except for the shut up I am a baby and dont' like you in this thread part, the other part was ununderstandble.

[muy_thaiguy]

Group hug anyone?

Only if your in it...