Etiquette Question
Posted: Mon Jul 30, 2007 3:41 pmI am in a game with a player who seems to have a regular recurring issue. This person has played in what is (to me, personally) a staggering number of games at this Website (several thousand). Their total level of feedback is dwarfed by this, as they've only a couple hundred responses, but that feedback is very much positive (something like 190+ vs. 5 neutral/negative).
That being said, the five negative comments all say the same thing... that this person repeatedly takes nearly 24 hours to make a turn, and frequently misses multiple turns within a game. The people making these comments were not particularly diplomatic, nor were they overly polite, and I do think they might've blown things out of proportion a bit...
The player in question, now, responded to each comment with "sometimes RL takes precedence," "I have a child to take care of," "I went camping with my family, etc." They're quite the broken record, really, with "R/L comes first" running throughout... a principle which, at its most basic level, I would certainly agree with. That being said... there is a certain sense of "don't join so many games if you're repeatedly falling behind." It takes a few minutes, at most, to make a move in a game; maybe not the most calculating move, granted, but you'll do better than you will by getting kicked for missing multiple turns.
This person seems to be repeatedly taking on more than they can handle. If you're going camping for a few days with your family, why would you join a game immediately beforehand? (I don't know that this happened in that fashion, granted, it's just an impression I got from reading this person's feedback). If your child / work concerns, which many people presumably share, prevent you from playing to the length and level of consideration that you would like to put into your games, perhaps you should reduce the extent to which you are gaming.
I'm involved in one game with this person, currently. They missed their last turn, and when last I checked about 15-16 hours had gone by for their current turn, which is more time than it took the rest of us to take each of our turns combined. This person is fast becoming a frustrating speedbump in the game... which is a pity, as they might've been a truly inspiring opponent. Strategically, their absence has in fact been an asset to my own maneuvers... but it would've been nice to have the additional dynamic, as well as lose the day-long pause that occurs whenever their turn comes around.
My question is, basically... Is there a polite and courteous way to bring this up? I'm rather new to ConquerClub.com, and I really don't want to cause offense or piss people off (at least, not so early on
). Is this something that is not considered impolite (in which case, I'll shut up now)..? I've no intention of leaving negative feedback; I realize we -have- 24 hours to make our moves, and to condemn someone utterly for taking that much time, even repeatedly, or missing their own turns, seems a bit excessive to me. I'd just like to know, basically, if there's some community standard as to a way to politely broach the subject.
That being said, the five negative comments all say the same thing... that this person repeatedly takes nearly 24 hours to make a turn, and frequently misses multiple turns within a game. The people making these comments were not particularly diplomatic, nor were they overly polite, and I do think they might've blown things out of proportion a bit...
The player in question, now, responded to each comment with "sometimes RL takes precedence," "I have a child to take care of," "I went camping with my family, etc." They're quite the broken record, really, with "R/L comes first" running throughout... a principle which, at its most basic level, I would certainly agree with. That being said... there is a certain sense of "don't join so many games if you're repeatedly falling behind." It takes a few minutes, at most, to make a move in a game; maybe not the most calculating move, granted, but you'll do better than you will by getting kicked for missing multiple turns.
This person seems to be repeatedly taking on more than they can handle. If you're going camping for a few days with your family, why would you join a game immediately beforehand? (I don't know that this happened in that fashion, granted, it's just an impression I got from reading this person's feedback). If your child / work concerns, which many people presumably share, prevent you from playing to the length and level of consideration that you would like to put into your games, perhaps you should reduce the extent to which you are gaming.
I'm involved in one game with this person, currently. They missed their last turn, and when last I checked about 15-16 hours had gone by for their current turn, which is more time than it took the rest of us to take each of our turns combined. This person is fast becoming a frustrating speedbump in the game... which is a pity, as they might've been a truly inspiring opponent. Strategically, their absence has in fact been an asset to my own maneuvers... but it would've been nice to have the additional dynamic, as well as lose the day-long pause that occurs whenever their turn comes around.
My question is, basically... Is there a polite and courteous way to bring this up? I'm rather new to ConquerClub.com, and I really don't want to cause offense or piss people off (at least, not so early on
). Is this something that is not considered impolite (in which case, I'll shut up now)..? I've no intention of leaving negative feedback; I realize we -have- 24 hours to make our moves, and to condemn someone utterly for taking that much time, even repeatedly, or missing their own turns, seems a bit excessive to me. I'd just like to know, basically, if there's some community standard as to a way to politely broach the subject.