Conquer Club

HighlanderAttack wrote:When inflicted with bad dice or the opposite, fantastic dice by an opponent, it really pisses me off. Why must I still act like an immature child bad sport?

Honestly, I am truly competitive, but in real life I do not act like a child anymore when I lose in a game or sports--I can hold back the anguish.

On CC however, I show my true immaturity when losing.

I don't even really try and work on being a good sport.

I am now under ten games active and even play meaningless public games-I still get pissed.

How many of you have this same issue?

natty dread wrote:I sometimes curse the dice if I have bad luck (who doesn't) but I never take it on the other players...

I think it's just poor form to throw tantrums in chat, the other players aren't responsible for your bad luck and/or poor strategic decisions.

The good news is you're recognizing the negative traits in your behaviour instead of denying them, and this enables you to work on them. Since you recognize that your behaviour is immature (in your own words), do you have any idea what might cause you to behave this way? Do you think a lack of real social feedback might contribute to it, as in you're not face-to-face with your friends and don't have to face the embarrasment of showing your frustration/anger/etc to your friends, which enables you to more openly express your frustration in an online setting? It's common knowledge that people often act less restrained - in both good and bad ways - online, and the fact that it's hard to connect emotionally with other people when your communication is reduced to words on a screen.

Therefore, could it be possible that you might be able to work on your behaviour by trying to visualize your opponents in the game as persons who are sitting next to you, and trying to consider everything you write as if you were saying it to their face? This is of course harder in public games with random opponents, but it could be worth a shot... if you don't know your opponents, just make up a mental image of some random person... this way, you could sort of "re-humanize" your view of the people you're playing against, in a way seeing them more as people rather than just names on a screen, and thus making you less likely to lash out at them when you have bad luck.

HighlanderAttack wrote:

natty dread wrote:I sometimes curse the dice if I have bad luck (who doesn't) but I never take it on the other players...

I think it's just poor form to throw tantrums in chat, the other players aren't responsible for your bad luck and/or poor strategic decisions.

The good news is you're recognizing the negative traits in your behaviour instead of denying them, and this enables you to work on them. Since you recognize that your behaviour is immature (in your own words), do you have any idea what might cause you to behave this way? Do you think a lack of real social feedback might contribute to it, as in you're not face-to-face with your friends and don't have to face the embarrasment of showing your frustration/anger/etc to your friends, which enables you to more openly express your frustration in an online setting? It's common knowledge that people often act less restrained - in both good and bad ways - online, and the fact that it's hard to connect emotionally with other people when your communication is reduced to words on a screen.

Therefore, could it be possible that you might be able to work on your behaviour by trying to visualize your opponents in the game as persons who are sitting next to you, and trying to consider everything you write as if you were saying it to their face? This is of course harder in public games with random opponents, but it could be worth a shot... if you don't know your opponents, just make up a mental image of some random person... this way, you could sort of "re-humanize" your view of the people you're playing against, in a way seeing them more as people rather than just names on a screen, and thus making you less likely to lash out at them when you have bad luck.

PSY 101 for sure

TheGeneral2112 wrote:We aren't talking about strategic mistakes, we are talking about the shitty fucking dice. Like in my last game against GeneralRisk I lost both a 12v6 and a 10v1. Utterly bullshit. No way that can be blamed on strategy. Or, I just played a Maximus game where we both used the same strategy. The other guy won. Why? Dice. Something that I can't help. Pisses me off...

TheGeneral2112 wrote:We aren't talking about strategic mistakes, we are talking about the shitty fucking dice. Like in my last game against GeneralRisk I lost both a 12v6 and a 10v1. Utterly bullshit. No way that can be blamed on strategy. Or, I just played a Maximus game where we both used the same strategy. The other guy won. Why? Dice. Something that I can't help. Pisses me off...

natty dread wrote:
Secondly, perhaps you aren't really angry at the dice per se - perhaps you are angry because you are not in control, that events that you can't control affect the outcome because you are a loser, which makes you feel powerless as it does all losers. Perhaps you feel that you have so little control of your life in general because you are a loser, that when you see this lack of control manifest in a concrete phenomenon, ie. the dice, it gives you a convenient target to take out your anger and frustration on?

It's a common problem amongst those who are losers like you, and one that doesn't have any easy solutions, except perhaps putting a bullet through your head, but don't do that, there is always a need for cannon fodder - alternatively, the best I can suggest is to simply try to accept the fact that you are a loser and will never change the things you'd want to change, and try to find happiness in being a loser. Of course this doesn't mean that you should be satisfied with whatever happens to you, nor does it mean that you should give up on trying to change your life for the better...it wont, because you are a loser, pure and simple, but do carry on, it provides much mirth and amusement for us winners - you should never give up on that, after all, we winners need amusing but perhaps you should prioritize and pick your battles, maybe take on other losers. Try to change what you can, which is pretty much nothing, but don't worry too much if you can't change everything....well in your case anything but let's not talk semantics.